I have a crush for a male ENTJ for years... I met him for the first time while we was in university, we took same major. It was at 2000 or 11 years a go. We started become friend and we end up as a very close friend. As me, an INFJ, i rarely to fall in love with a guy... I don't want to fall in love with him because we are friend and he makes me feel so comfortable. I'm so afraid to loose our friendship.
He has a very different quality like mine. He is very smart because all ENTJs like to think from a very different side if compare with INFJs. So he always surprise me with his way of thinking which i admire about him. He rarely use his emotion while i'm so emotional. I can discuss anything open without afraid that he will judge me like other types will do. Although sometimes he hurt me with his lack of empathy but he learn to fix that side of him.
We've been in a platonic relationship for all this year. I'm trying hard to kill my feeling for him but the more i try, the more it become stronger. I know very well that i will end up being hurt again. He is a womanizer because he don't use emotion in his relationship.
What i want to ask, what do you, male ENTJs, seek in a relationship? Lately, he tell me that he don't want to play anymore and looking for a right woman to be his wife... I don't want to day dreaming as we INFJs always do. In the past, one time i cut him completely from my life because i was tired being hurt and he knew well that i like him more than friend. That was time when i hurt so bad and take another years to heal completely. He come into my life again about 3 weeks a go and we go on a relation like in the past... like nothing ever happened between us.
How to tell that a male ENTJ like you and have feeling more than a friend? I ask this because it's really hard to read your emotion.
Thank you for your help.