This is a discussion on Ask an ENTJ a question within the ENTJ Forum - The Executives forums, part of the NT's Temperament Forum- The Intellects category; Originally Posted by Scarlet.Black I mean that I don't think that there are so big differences between NT males and ...
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If you change your actions because not fullfilling peoples expectations will make them emotional so yes you are still changing your behaviour to fullfill expectations. It doesn't matter why you are doing it. I am NF too so I would say that you are making quite big simplifications here. For example Fe and Fi works very differently and we are all also individuals. My long-term plan is to keep people near me happy and safe - not just soften their lives and keep them comfortable. If something has to be said I will open my mouth even if people doesn't like to hear me. But yes I keep doing things I don't like just to keep the peace and make things easier - I fullfill expectations if I find that it help my purpose. Sure I has my own goal but it doesn't change reality.
Another thing is that we often have high expectations and romantic ideas about others - and often those are quite stereotypical. We might not focus on looks or things like that BUT many of us seems to think that somebody is gonna come and complete us. You don't think that expecting someone to balance you or make you feel better about yourself is stereotypical? How do you think that stereotypes take shapes? Why do you think that we have them? For NTs who rely on themselves and not others? I am not trying to be mean.
Last edited by Scarlet.Black; 04-30-2016 at 04:52 AM.
ENTJs do you fall in love easily?
We just have very high standards. It takes sifting through literally hundreds of girls to find one that it'll happen with. We're not the type to pick the prettiest person in a group of 20 people and think we're going to spend our life with them, that person may become a friend. We pick the best all around person we find in the literaly hundreds of people we cross paths with within a week and then investigate further, and even then about 3/4 people fail.
However if you're the one. We fall very easy.
Not only is this annoying but she's the worst about this when making important decisions, meaning that time is of the essence.
Hmmm....I was clarifying that we do not focus on the expectations itself, but the emotions of the person. See I will change something to make someone happy, but I am not in any way focus on the expectation, rather seeing them happy. Its why its really easy for us to just stop giving ourselves to people. Like my dropping nursing and saying I hate it. I mean I also did nursing cuz I was curious about it. perhaps I am making big simplifications, so it may just be me or INFPs in general (also ENFPs since we are like twins XP) But honestly I dont do anything because someone expects me to. I do it cuz i like to see them happy. I will not do something I am not okay with to make someone happy however, i dont have Fe and thats just not happening. Cuz i pay no need to anyones expectations but my own (Fi).
Quite true we do..........sigh I love that about me :3
Looks? O.o Ehhhh.........no. I dont think anyone is going to come complete me honestly; rather compliment me XP I dont think its stereotypical rather its a common feeling any human being wants because we crave connection and acceptance. Thats actually love anyways; acceptance.