NT the DC ‘s post above about looking more to the Enneagram.
I’m and 8w9 and probably what I abstractly fear most is that feeling that someone is trying to control me. I really don’t like that.
8w9 tends to be more diplomatic than 8w7 (who tend to be a bit more outwardly aggressive), but we both have power and control issues that we have to work through.
In my own observations being around other Type 8s:
8w7 tends to shoot first and ask questions later (they have more “fiery”, quick tempered personalities— so they’re typically more aggressive and well ... loud, so they’ll get in your face if they feel threatened.)
8w9 tends to hear you out and ask questions ... and then probably shoot you. (we’re more diplomatic and laid-back, but when pushed, rather than yell, will shoot you a look that will make the hair on the back of your neck stand up. Icy cold, rather than fiery)
8w7 is more stereotypically the guy who reacts quickly, publicly, and decisively to quell any uprising. (wants to be in control)
8w9 is more stereotypically the ice princess who picks her moment and privately shivs you when you’re not expecting it. (doesn’t want to be controlled by others)
Either way, we don’t like it when people try to control us. So our biggest fear would probably be that lack of control felt when someone tries to get the best of us.