This is a discussion on Ask an ENTJ a question within the ENTJ Forum - The Executives forums, part of the NT's Temperament Forum- The Intellects category; Originally Posted by Eu_citzen I'll need to get going soon. So I'll keep the answer short, anyway: How to make ...
Isn't it possible to follow intuition and also seek out answers, hesitating in the process/ stalling where possible? I don't mean at the expense of others, but we can work quickly if we want to, and this would have to be a better way to respect both ourselves and others.
There's just not so much fear of consequences, there's an innate belief that I can get back up again (almost) no matter what happens.
I've failed often enough to know its not the end of the world. Unless I accidentally get myself killed.
I wish I had that belief of "if it's meant to happen, it will"... It seems a bit of a soothing thing to have.
It's quite so the opposite for me, if opportunity presents itself and I want to seize it I better get off my lazy butt.
And if you are going to take that attitude you also have to be willing to accept that it may never happen, because that's really the reality of it. So a bit like, pessimism with a little bit of a dream mingled into it which probably never will happen, but just might, and often does for some reason, but still never ever may.
A risk-assessment, basically, and also a risk vs reward comparison. But it comes so naturally, almost automatic, that I rarely think about it in too much detail.
"Be willing to accept it may never happen"
Don't you ever wallow, after an opportunity passed, and wonder "what if....?" (e.g. what if I tried, what I had.... etc etc)
These "what ifs" haunt me after an opportunity were I was passive, it's unsettling. And that's also one reason I can be quick to action.
Because then I can go "At least I tried".... It gives me a sense of harmony, knowing that I tried, even if I failed.
What if you had a 30% chance to succeed at one of your dreams/life goals? Would you take it?
What about 40%?
At around 30% I would seriously start considering it. I say consider, since I would still not jump blindly into it; but dissect it. Pros and cons, etc.
(it's not so much a calculation either, but an educated guess or even a hunch I go of off)
Can't quite put my finger on it, but something about that "happens for a reason" irks me, perhaps its the possible metaphysical interpretation that is typically used in a similar context.