When in love
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When in love
Ohh yes. But I thought most people did?
Though, to be honest, I'm not really sure what 'heavily vulnerable' really is. I think I'm sometimes really bad at figuring out the degree of emotions. I've gotten good at understanding the basic universal emotions. Anyways, confessing love does make me feel uncomfortable.
Comparing to "confessing" your feelings to somebody that you don't love, not at all. I feel specially vulnerable when talking to friends/colleagues about positive feelings, i prefer to have a rational motivation to explain instead. Incidentally, negative feelings like anger or frustration are more easy to communicate for me.
I'm always very curious about how love "works", because for me in essence is dropping that socially protective barriers in exchange of being able to interact intimately with somebody, isn' t ? I've very little of that barriers but even I think I'm doing that.... so in that sense it does have a rational basis, therefore I'm pretty comfortable with it.
Yep. I have to restrain myself from placing hand on ripcord.
when in love: yes. ..because the fact is that despite how much they may be someone you feel comfortable talking about anything with and are able to say anything w/ and how much they might be caring and how much they might strive to not be judge-mental, the reality is sharing any weaknesses and insecurities with a romantic interest risks making yourself less attractive to them. ( and any denial of that fact is simply naivety) ... so I'd strongly advice caution when sharing your vulnerabilities w/ a romantic interest.
if it's someone I'm not romantically interested in then there isn't an issue of making myself less sexy to them and so it's easier. Though its rare I'm able to find people I can share my thoughts and feelings with and romantic interests make up a large percentage of the few people I find that I can talk to.
Still remember when my ex told me that she loved me and I just walked out of the room. [EDIT] House not room [EDIT]. This fucking expectation to say it back :)
Fast forward to today.
I'm rather a direct cookie and don't have a problem to say what I feel if I'm aware of it. The latter might be an issue.
Last edited by DarkSideOfLight; 04-02-2018 at 06:36 AM. Reason: Precision