I finally found a "casual" job in hospitality as a chef (yay! actually I'm ok with 12hr shifts, just not back to back). So this is what happened,
Day 1: Awesome, quickly learning things and boss likes my skills and attitude.
Day 2: Still good, introduced to a guy who has worked there a bit longer to learn the ropes.
Day 3: Went from food prep to one of the main chefs, starting to incorporate my own skills, knowledge and taking on a leader role within the restaurant. Boss is really happy with me, I'm cooking alongside him and just as fast.
Day 4: That guy I was introduced to had a disagreement with me on how to do things; I said I was going to do it my way as long as the result is the same. He kept telling me to stick to the method even though I see inconveniences and needless actions. He went straight to the boss telling him that I'm not listening but the boss was cool with it (I typed the boss as ENTx). That pissed me off because we could have solved the issue without complaining to the boss.
Day 5: In the morning I was really pissed off for a solid 2hrs because I came in before 11 (it was 10:57 and I start at 11) and was clocking in and checking if my other times were right. That guy storms up to me and says "What are you doing!?"
Me: "Errr clocking in?"
Dude: "No, what are you doing now?"
Me: "Checking if my times are right or not." (I'm still getting used to the system, I thought he was joking around but his facial expressions weren't)
Dude: "No, don't just stand there and do nothing, it's busy!" (It's not busy)
me: "Yeah I know but-" *A lady politely asked me to wash up* "O.K"
I'm washing up and he comes over telling what to do, how to do it, "hurry up because it's not a show" he keeps checking up on me.
Me: "Dude chill"
Dude: "Get it done properly, listen to me!"
So I just pushed my anger down just "Yeah, yeah". I'm drying things then the washer ended a second ago like literally less than a second and he storms up to me saying "What are you doing!? Look! You need to quickly load everything etc" and so I said "Well I need more space that's why I'm drying the other stuff so I can put it away".
Dude: "No just put it upside down yeah, just quickly! quickly!". There's no reason to rush as there's no customers and it's not a busy day so I ignored him and kept drying shit. Even if we have many things to do, he's being counter productive by stopping his food prep to constantly tell me what to do.
So when I stopped responding, he was like, "Look! Listen to me!!". I calmly walked into the giant cool room where no one could hear me and swore a bunch.
Later on it seems like things were cool, the boss was telling everyone to be a team etc. I placed the dry pans next to that guy and told him to place it above as I can't reach.
Dude: "Don't just put the pans there"
Me: "I can't reach, can you put it up there for me?"
Dude: "I'm busy you know? you should complete one task and not just leave it"
I look at what he's doing, he is just stirring some sauce...looks like he can spare a second to place pans on the top shelf. Teamwork. My. Ass. FFS.
Another chef in a different section said he noticed that the guy is controlling mainly to girls, it could be a cultural thing or it could be that our section is mainly female. I find it really hard to back down but since I'm new I kind of have to, although I already have a couple chefs vouching for me if I do go off at him.
How should I deal with this guy? Is there a quick way to cool down and not get angry, defensive etc? I inevitably go on defense mode when he's around. Should I just grit my teeth and do as he says? Tell the boss? Actually go off at him? Just looking at him makes me angry
Have you dealt with people like this? What was your experience? I want to know!
Anyways, tomorrow will be day 6. The boss wants me to start delegating work and training others but I only just started working so lets hope the girls act better than that guy.