This is a discussion on Love Types: ESFJ within the ESFJ Articles forums, part of the ESFJ Forum - The Caregivers category; Originally Posted by Lady K SFJ's are not boring, you just have to find the right one. Just because we're ...
Socionics is BS!
For ESFJ, best match is ISFP.
I've always been drawn to the introverted level-headed types with a sense of humor. I never seem to come across ISTPs, but their character is usually appealing to me. Aside from that I constantly am drawn to INTPs.
Also the versatility of pairings in this thread pretty much shows that any two people can find compatibility in each other despite recommended pairings. Usually I would think that S/N differences might cause some disconnect, but I suppose that would require factors of compatibility outside of typology to decide what works and what doesn't.
There are now facebook groups open for each dual pair of types: ESFJ - INTP facebook group
video about dual experiences:
I have yelled at him for being stupid and grouchy. About 15 minutes later he apologizes, but then I do too, because I was also likely grouchy as well.
Alone time... unforunately yes. I like being with others, but sometimes just alone time with computers help us both. He watches things, programs, etc, and I screw around on forums.
This is really spot on what goes on in the ENFP and INTP relationship that can work. We've been living together for 3 years already. :)
It's pretty true... although, to be honest, I don't see my esfj friend organizing a Twister party anytime soon... too bad.
I think it also has to do if there's a formal relation in place to facilitate the balance and help... or it seems to exaggerate it. Anyways, I think that my intuitiveness has helped him see something in a different way and I felt really listened to from it. He said I was very insightful person and he was too endearing to me... extremely warm personality. Seemed very genuine, however.
LII-ESE facebook socionics duality group (types ESFJ and INTP) for anyone interested in discussing relationships in this type of pairing.