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This is a discussion on The ESFJ Child within the ESFJ Articles forums, part of the ESFJ Forum - The Caregivers category; From: Parenting Skill ESFJ Requires Frequent Expressions of Affection and Feeling! Parenting skill for the ESFJ child will require parents ...

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    ISFJ - The Nurturers

    The ESFJ Child

    From: Parenting Skill ESFJ Requires Frequent Expressions of Affection and Feeling!

    Parenting skill for the ESFJ child will require parents who understand practicality,with a willingness to give repeated and sincere affection and affirmation.ESFJ, Extraverted with Sensing, Feeling and Judging parenting skill can be improved by understandingthat these ESFJ little ones need to feel loved and appreciated...all the time!
    Firstly understand that this page is devoted to helping you as a loving parent or guardian, regardless of yourtype, better understand how to use your instinctive nature to improve your parenting skillby nurturing your child.
    Your nature and your child's nature is your personality type and your child's personality type as discovered through the Myers-Briggs Test.
    You may or may not be ESFJ; but, if your child is ESFJ than this page can guide you in developing outstanding parenting skill as you raise and interact with your ESFJ child.
    You'll be introduced to several key personality characteristics of the ESFJ childand you'll be given some suggestions as to things to do that will improve parentingskill and help nurture your ESFJ child all through life.
    We'll assume that you know your personality type and that your child is ESFJ...or youthink they are...here we go!!
    Characteristics

    • Characteristics of the ESFJ Child-Some Behaviors to Look For:
    • Very happy, even optimistic babies
    • Lots of energy as babies
    • Very verbal and generally expressive
    • They like to run everywhere vs walking
    • Crave, need hugs, kisses, snuggles...physical expression
    • All their life, they value harmony, being appreciated and valued
    • Must have order and structure
    • Early, avid readers
    • Very cooperative, and competitive school children
    • Very artistic, paint, jewelry, crafts
    • Sometimes too social in school settings
    • Driving need to "fit in" won't lead necessarily
    • Strong tendency to be perfectionist
    • Any dis-harmonious situation will crush them
    • Strong need for relationships
    • Very caring, loyal...traditional children

    Regardless of your type Mom and Dad here are some things you can do to nurture the ESFJ child and improveparenting skill.
    Guidelines

    • Guidelines for the ESFJ Child:
    • Let them talk and be ready for lots of energy
    • Give them tons of physical affection, following their lead
    • hug them, kiss them, snuggle them
    • They will, but encourage them to express all of what they feel
    • Show them, be precise in what you mean for them to do
    • Try not to be too "up front" too forceful
    • They need constant praise and affirmation, see the negative don't dwell on it
    • Help them to see they don't need to rush decisions, options are ok
    • Be tactful with them as their feelings are dominant

    In conclusion Mom and Dad, if you are ESFJ than most of the above seemed pretty naturaland may have brought back childhood memories; but, if you are not a Sensing Feeler (SF)or an Extraverted Judger (EJ) then maybe the above can better aid you as you developyou parenting skill.
    The ESFJ is one of more common personality types in terms of distribution in America.About 10-12% of all Americans are ESFJ. About 14-17% of American females and about 5-7% ofmales are ESFJ. As you can see a bit more weighted on the female side!



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    Sounds a bit like how my sister is (she's a few years older than me and the oldest out of the five siblings). She's definately extroverted and caring, quite social.

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    ESFJ - The Caregivers

    Sounds like me....lols
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    ENTJ - The Executives

    Early, avid readers... interesting

    Which cognitive functions assist that?
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    I think my son is ESFJ. It's hard to tell his S from N at his young age but the description above fits him more than that of the ENFJ child.


    • Very happy, even optimistic babies
    • Lots of energy as babies
    • Very verbal and generally expressive
    • They like to run everywhere vs walking
    • Crave, need hugs, kisses, snuggles...physical expression
    • All their life, they value harmony, being appreciated and valued
    • Must have order and structure
    • Very artistic, paint, jewelry, crafts
    • Strong tendency to be perfectionist
    • Any dis-harmonious situation will crush them
    • Strong need for relationships
    • Very caring, loyal...traditional children


    These ones are him to a T. Bless him, a handful but a lovely heart.
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    I thought it was strange when my girlfriend said she liked to read the encyclopedia when she was a child. But she is an esfj so the "avid reading" point explains it lol
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    ESFJ - The Caregivers

    Wow, I'm surprised by how many of these do a great job describing me as a child. I loved reading, was pretty artistic, talked way too much when I wasn't supposed to (and got sent to the principal's office all the time for it ), was very competitive yet cooperative, a natural perfectionist, and always strove to "fit in". Nice article.

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    ESFJ - The Caregivers

    Seeing the child I should've been and struggled to be...Thank God for the ability to get away from dummies and people who shouldn't even be having kids.

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    ESFJ - The Caregivers

    Early, avid readers... interesting

    Which cognitive functions assist that?
    Idk, but it was true for me. I was reading at a college level by the age of 8. My favorite books were on Marine Biology and autobiographies written by princesses of the past, etc. I always felt kind of odd because learning was a gratifying experience for me, and the library still is one of my favorite places to go. I didn't realize that this was an ESFJ thing though.

    I thought it was strange when my girlfriend said she liked to read the encyclopedia when she was a child. But she is an esfj so the "avid reading" point explains it lol
    Lol, wow. I thought I was the only kid that did that. =P

    I would write out a page of the dictionary every day and then read the encyclopedias we had upstairs when I got a free moment. My family was quite educated so we had a huge library growing up. I must have read over 2,000 books by the time I was 8, and over 20,000 by the time I was fifteen... books are my friends.

    In a lot of ways I identified with Belle on Beauty and the Beast because of my what you could call "book addiction" as a child. =)
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    My brother and I were looking at our ESFJ aunt's yearbook from the 1950s and, in addition to being in charge of just about everything in her school, she did seem to be pretty well-read and a good academic achiever as a teenager. Of course that's a snapshot of an ESFJ teenager and we're talking about ESFJ kids. I do remember a lot of books in the library in elementary school that appealed to "those other girls" in school. I can't exactly put my finger on it, but the books weren't quite my taste and I usually didn't check any more out by a particular author after reading one or two. The librarian's job is to pick out books that appeal to all the children, and they did seem to do a good job at that.

    Quote Originally Posted by azrinsani View Post
    Early, avid readers... interesting

    Which cognitive functions assist that?
    Most likely, Inferior Ti. From what I've observed in my nephew's development, logic and feeling seem to develop before the other functions, so it would make sense that Introverted Thinking is one of their first functions to develop even though it is one of their weakest. It is kind of like that little-known matter we ENTJs don't like to discuss about our childhoods and crying.
    Last edited by Mean Aunt Seena; 09-10-2016 at 10:21 AM.


     
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