I have recently started dating an INTP, and we have gotten really into reading about our respective personality types. Interestingly, he has found countless forums by INTPs, has had enjoyed reading about others' experiences as his same type. I, however, have found no forums for ESFJs! I am surprised by this, given that as an ESFJ, I love to talk to other people, especially people with whom I have something in common. And yet, no ESFJs seem to be interested in the least in talking about themselves. This shouldn't be terribly surprising, as ESFJs are caregivers, and on many of the profiles I have read about how much we enjoy talking about other people. Perhaps we should start a forum called, "What ESFJs think about everyone else"? That might get the conversation going.
In all honesty, though, I would find it very helpful to compare notes, as it were, with others like me. Let's get this ball rolling, shall we?
Here's a few topics of conversation:
* Interesting especially to me, how does an ESFJ get along with the polar opposite type, the INTP? I have found it to be a delightful match, certainly a complementary one, as long as sights are set outward and communication is open.
* Has anyone taken the Enneagram test? I find many common characteristics between my ESFJ-ness and my Enneagram 2-ness. What are other people's Enneagram types?
* From a faith perspective, how does your ESFJ type relate to your faith (in my case, Christian faith, but really any faith)? Do you believe, as I do, that some of the best characteristics of your type are directly related to your efforts to live into the ideals of your faith?
* What has been your experience in friend relationships? Do you find yourself to be a better or worse friend than others? How about your romantic relationships?