This is a discussion on Confessions of an ESFJ within the ESFJ Forum - The Caregivers forums, part of the SJ's Temperament Forum- The Overseers category; Originally Posted by Elwinz Do you have some kind of trust issues, (or anxieties) or just you have experienced people ...
Can we keep this thread on topic please.
@The Penguin , I'm really sorry to read your post there. Could we start a new thread and chat?
My confession is that I actively smile at people and nod when they speak although I disagree with what they're saying in that moment. I just want to give them a good feeling and appreciation. Then I decide if I tell my opinion or if I let it go based on how much trust I have in our relationship. I know I fake it but it's more important to make them feel good than to tell everyone my opinion.
Also, I look at other people and think that they do not care about their facial expressions when someone is talking in a meeting. They sit there like robots but it's not hard to smile, nod or do something to show that you listen. That makes me feel Superior to other because I think have this awareness but it also make me second-guess myself because I really care and don't want to be fake.
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ESFJ Forum - The Caregivers scroll down to the end where the mods are listed.Lol. That is a very unexpected reaction.Another confession. I worried for several hours after initially posting this thread thinking it might to go down like a lead balloon with potential disapproval from my fellow ESFJs of my slightly selfish coffee making antics ha-ha.
But is your behavior really selfish? You have standards and you're implementing them, not just for yourself but also for others whose standards are not up to par. So, you're doing them a favor, right? If coffee helps them get through morning, then you're not only handling the coffee-making, but you're also improving their mornings, which then consequently results in better productivity. That improves your employer's bottom line in the long term. That's not selfish at all!
Another thought: they might know how terrible their coffee is and might not have the courage to admit it.
Cheers @Santa Gloss .You can message one of the mods for the ESFJ section and ask them to sticky it. Or mention one of them in the thread and request it. To find the list of mods for this section, go to ESFJ Forum - The Caregivers scroll down to the end where the mods are listed.
Would it possible to have this thread made 'Sticky'? Many thanks.
If you saw someone showing up to socials with wet hair all the time, would you judge that person...?