I don't have the greatest self confidence as I form my identity around whoever is near me. While this is a strength of Fe it's also caused me much harm- i.e. taking things personally, not being able to stand my own ground. I felt that if I knew who I was, I'd probably be able to "cope" better. I'm wondering from a practical sense, where is the "growth" for an ESFJ, someone who was made to please?