[DrEquine]

Hi! I just have some questions, as I'm trying to clarify my type...I know most people may just skip past all these questions, but even answering a few helps! Thank you!

1. Are you a type 2 Enneagram? If so, are you a 2w3?

2. What tritype are you?

3. What is your socionics type? What are your primary and secondary romance styles according to the socionics test?

4. According to a cognitive functions test, put your 8 functions in order from greatest to least

5. What is your attitudinal psyche type?

6. What is your temperament (the two highest are your temperament)?

7. What is your 5x5 alignment test results?

8. Can you tell when someone is being fake to get something out of you? For example: I was at the archery range shooting my bow when I ended up talking to a stranger there. We were talking and he asked me if I had ever been hunting. Said no, I had no idea how...he started using my first name a lot and began saying how he'd totally teach me if I had a place for us to hunt. Now, I'm no idiot. I knew very clearly that he didn't give a shit about teaching me to hunt, he just wanted a place to hunt and probably had no real interest in teaching me. I took his number out of politeness and told him I'd text him if I found somewhere. I had no intention of ever texting him. When people start saying my first name a lot (when it's clear they're talking to me and they're total strangers to me), any trust I had for them instantly goes out the window...it's something pulled straight out of the car salesman handbook and is an instant sign, at least in my eyes, that they're not being genuine. If it's someone I know, that's a lot different.

9. Do you ever have a thought cross your mind regarding a subject, agree with it, then 2 seconds later, realize how immoral it is and realize you don't agree with it? This could be regarding the death penalty, punishments for abhorrent crimes, etc. For example: You hear something about a rapist and think to yourself "We should kill all rapists"...then a second later realize "Hey...that's not okay at all, they deserve the right to a fair trial like everyone else."

10. What other types have you tested as?

11. How turbulent are you?

12. Do you ever give unsolicited advice regarding everyday things to people...I.E if you're bowling and you see something a friend could improve, you tell them.

13. Do you give unsolicited life and emotional advice to close friends when they're going through a tough time?

14. Are you the type of person to tell someone going through a rough time that "Things will be better one day soon." and give them hope for the future?

15. Do you tell people you love that you love them at least once a day, sometimes more than once a day?

16. Do you ever get so overcome with feelings of affection and emotions while talking to your partner, that you simply say their name and then tell them how much you love them...even if it's totally out of the blue.

17. Do people often ask you, dumbfounded, how you jumped from one topic you were talking about to another one that is completely unrelated

18. Have you ever been told you have no common sense? Ever been told you have so much potential?

19. Are you always early or on time to obligations?

20. Do you like making large groups of people (40+) laugh?

21. Ever considered doing standup comedy

22. Is the feeling of social rejection very hard for you to handle?

23. Do you take way more awful shit from people than you should?

24. Do you think there is ever a situation where you could beat the shit out of someone? Whether it be protecting your children, your spouse, your best friend, a loved one?

25. Were you the "weird kid" when you were younger?

26. Do you have ADHD?

27. How quickly does your mood change everyday


28. On a scale of 1-10, how much do you wish you could dance good/play an instrument/sing?

[Suntide]

Indeed, Professor Horse, this is a lot of questions... but it's the weekend and I like taking random opportunities to talk about myself. Plus, I just got this new keyboard and I like hearing it go clickety-click.

Hopefully one of the other few ESFJs on here can also offer their input so that it's not all just me lmao.

1. Are you a type 2 Enneagram? If so, are you a 2w3?

Yes and yes. When I was brand new to enneagram I thought I was a 9w1, though. And for a few years I thought I was a 6w7 core. I really didn't want to accept being a 2 because I hated how much I could relate to the negative aspects of it. But, then again, the enneagram is a very negatively-focused system.

2. What tritype are you?

2w3 6w7 9w8, 269 "The Good Samaritan."

3. What is your socionics type? What are your primary and secondary romance styles according to the socionics test?

I'm not as well-versed in socionics, but I think ESE-Fe fits the best. I haven't looked into the romance styles, and I've never been in a romantic relationship, so I don't think I could make a very good guess.

4. According to a cognitive functions test, put your 8 functions in order from greatest to least

I haven't taken a functions test in a while, phew. And when I did, I didn't save my full results. Well, I guess I'll take the keys2cog one now.

The results gave me ESFJ, with this function order:

Si > Fe > Te > Ne > Fi > Se > Ti > Ni.

5. What is your attitudinal psyche type?

FEVL.

6. What is your temperament (the two highest are your temperament)?

This is hard because my temperament has shifted quite a bit in the past few years. When I was depressed I typed as phlegmatic-melancholic. I still identify with phlegmatic, but not sure about melancholic anymore. Maybe phlegmatic-sanguine.

7. What is your 5x5 alignment test results?

In 3x3 I usually get neutral good or lawful neutral. In 5x5, I think I would probably be Social Neutral.

8. Can you tell when someone is being fake to get something out of you? For example: I was at the archery range shooting my bow when I ended up talking to a stranger there. We were talking and he asked me if I had ever been hunting. Said no, I had no idea how...he started using my first name a lot and began saying how he'd totally teach me if I had a place for us to hunt. Now, I'm no idiot. I knew very clearly that he didn't give a shit about teaching me to hunt, he just wanted a place to hunt and probably had no real interest in teaching me. I took his number out of politeness and told him I'd text him if I found somewhere. I had no intention of ever texting him. When people start saying my first name a lot (when it's clear they're talking to me and they're total strangers to me), any trust I had for them instantly goes out the window...it's something pulled straight out of the car salesman handbook and is an instant sign, at least in my eyes, that they're not being genuine. If it's someone I know, that's a lot different.

Sometimes. At least, it's not too hard for me to tell when people are not being completely genuine/being manipulative, even if I can't figure out the purpose behind it. But usually when I encounter overly-friendly people like that, I just nod my head and politely play along, and then book it out of there and never contact them again, lol.

9. Do you ever have a thought cross your mind regarding a subject, agree with it, then 2 seconds later, realize how immoral it is and realize you don't agree with it? This could be regarding the death penalty, punishments for abhorrent crimes, etc. For example: You hear something about a rapist and think to yourself "We should kill all rapists"...then a second later realize "Hey...that's not okay at all, they deserve the right to a fair trial like everyone else."

Maybe not in 2 seconds... but I have changed my opinions on a variety of social and political issues over the years as I have learned more information about them. But usually those sorts of opinion changes are gradual. More likely, within those 2 seconds, my mind will go to defending my already-existing POV. Once my mind is made up, it's not likely to change that quickly, and definitely not without some external input (such as discussions with people whose opinions differ from my own). If I bother to make a strongly opinionated statement at all, it's because I've already made up my mind, and it would take a bit of budging to get me to change that.

10. What other types have you tested as?

Mostly ISFJ. Occasionally INFP or ISFP.

11. How turbulent are you?

Not as much as I used to be. I relate the assertive/turbulent scale to the neuroticism scale on the Big 5. When I was depressed I scored very high on both. My scores for those are much lower now. I still consider myself to be more turbulent than assertive, however.

12. Do you ever give unsolicited advice regarding everyday things to people...I.E if you're bowling and you see something a friend could improve, you tell them.

Yeah, but I'm usually not too pushy about it. I'll just mention it casually. If the person rejects it, then I drop it.

13. Do you give unsolicited life and emotional advice to close friends when they're going through a tough time?

I only give this sort of advice if the other person initiates conversation about it and sounds like they are looking for advice. Otherwise, if my friends don't bring up their struggles, I don't bring them up either.

14. Are you the type of person to tell someone going through a rough time that "Things will be better one day soon." and give them hope for the future?

Yes, I try to look towards the positives when cheering up my friends. But I try to keep it realistic as well. Blind hope will just end up crushing someone even more in the end. I say things like, "Things will get better. This could happen, or this could happen, or something else entirely, but no matter what it is, you will find a way to adapt to and overcome it."

15. Do you tell people you love that you love them at least once a day, sometimes more than once a day?

No, I'm very awkward about expressing intimate emotions because most of the people in my life are as well, especially my father. I wish I was better at this, but I don't like "serious emotional talks" (which for some reason includes positive emotions like love to me, too). I prefer to keep the emotional atmosphere very lighthearted and carefree, and since expressing love and admiration in words is awkward for me, I don't really do it. People don't do it for me much, either (most of my friends are the same as me I guess, ha). We find other ways to express it other than words.

16. Do you ever get so overcome with feelings of affection and emotions while talking to your partner, that you simply say their name and then tell them how much you love them...even if it's totally out of the blue.

I have never had a romantic partner. But I was in love once (I still am even though I haven't seen them in years), and I was very overcome with affection quite frequently. I kept it to myself though. The situation was... well, telling them wouldn't have worked out.

17. Do people often ask you, dumbfounded, how you jumped from one topic you were talking about to another one that is completely unrelated

Honestly yeah. Or I'll say or ask something that seems really random because I wasn't thinking out loud, and people will be like, "Suntide wtf?" Lol. But I promise the thought process in my brain is actually quite linear. It's just that they didn't hear it.

18. Have you ever been told you have no common sense? Ever been told you have so much potential?

No one has accused me of having no common sense yet. I have been told that I have potential, but I am always reluctant to believe it.

19. Are you always early or on time to obligations?

Never say never, and never say always. Ha! I would say 90% of the time I arrive a few minutes early, or right on time.

20. Do you like making large groups of people (40+) laugh?

I don't think I've even been in a room with that many people. Okay, actually, school. I have been. But I don't enjoy large crowds much. I like more intimate settings with small groups (I find one on one to be quite intimidating unless it's with someone I know well and feel comfortable with already). But I do like making people laugh, so I would probably enjoy it regardless.

21. Ever considered doing standup comedy

You couldn't pay me any amount of money to convince me to do that. Lol!

22. Is the feeling of social rejection very hard for you to handle?

Yes, very. Probably the worst feeling in the world for me, next to being a disappointment to others or feeling publicly embarrassed.

23. Do you take way more awful shit from people than you should?

Unfortunately. It's a bad habit of mine. I can be a bit of a doormat sometimes.

24. Do you think there is ever a situation where you could beat the shit out of someone? Whether it be protecting your children, your spouse, your best friend, a loved one?

I don't think I physically could. I could beat the shit out of them with words, sure, but I really don't think I could physically attack someone unless they started a physical confrontation first. Even then, I'm not a strong person, so I don't think I could win. Ha. But of course I wouldn't run away or stand by doing nothing if someone I knew was being mugged or something.

25. Were you the "weird kid" when you were younger?

Yes, actually. This may sound weird for an ESFJ, but I was socially ostracized in my kindergarten through 8th grade elementary school, by the majority of my peers. Why? Well, because in kindergarten everyone decided I was a freak because I have femoral anteversion (otherwise known as pigeon-toed or intoeing). Kids are brutal. And because it was the norm for so long, they didn't really grow out of it. There were some people who didn't subscribe to that bullshit who I was friends with, and I'm grateful for them and still know a lot of them today. I think that this social shunning is a large part of why I developed into an enneagram 2w3, and why I test as an introvert on a lot of tests (I developed social anxiety, unsurprisingly).

When I entered high school, things got a lot better. There were tons of new people, none of whom gave a shit that I walked a little different like everyone at my old school did in kindergarten. I started coming out of my shell a lot more. It took many years to unpack that childhood trauma from school, though (as well as that from my poor home situation).

26. Do you have ADHD?

No. But I was misdiagnosed with it once. The doctor decided that I had it because my eyes were watering while she was talking to me. My eyes were watering because the air conditioning was blasting right into my fucking eyes. And because my desk at school was messy. That was a side effect of my poor home situation, but not ADHD.

27. How quickly does your mood change everyday

Multiple times per day, depending on whatever events occur. I prefer to be in a neutral mood that isn't too strong one way or the other (negatively or positively) because it causes me stress. (Yes, being too excited or happy causes me stress... ha)

28. On a scale of 1-10, how much do you wish you could dance good/play an instrument/sing?

I don't know how I would put it on a scale tbh? I do wish I had more skill with it. I score highest in musical intelligence, I like singing, and I have a good ear for following any tune on-key while singing. However, my vocal range needs some work and I don't use my diaphragm properly. I am also still learning how to adjust to my new, lower vocal range since I started transitioning a few years ago. I can't hit the high notes that I used to be able to, and I still need to exercise my new low range.

I used to be able to play beginner level guitar and piano as a kid, but it's been so long that I've forgotten everything now. I think that with music and instruments, I would be a fast learner, though. I just need to commit myself and get serious about it at some point if I ever want to actually improve.