I've noticed an unhealthy pattern with the way I act when I feel really hurt or angry. It's complete passive-aggressive behavior and I can't seem to move past it. I'll completely shut down emotionally and become numb and unresponsive. I then proceed to ignore the person I'm mad at and convince them that I'm fine and not actually angry, but then keep ignoring them and the whole situation altogether. The rational side of me knows that I need to just tell them what's wrong and work it out, but the emotional side of me just wants to punish them with silence by deliberately dragging it out, and I can't bring myself to even look at them.
My ESFJ mom does this too, has always done this, and maybe it's something I've picked up from her. I know it's annoying as hell to be on the receiving end of, but I've done it to my boyfriend a couple of times now, which alarms and frustrates him, and I want to stop being this icy bitch when it happens. Does anyone else do this and has anyone found a way to break out of this cycle?