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This is a discussion on ESFJ's POV from an ESFJ! within the ESFJ Forum - The Caregivers forums, part of the SJ's Temperament Forum- The Overseers category; I'd like to know how other ESFJ's deal with their weaknesses. I find myself needing a lot of compliments to ...

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    ENTJ - The Executives

    ESFJ's POV from an ESFJ!

    I'd like to know how other ESFJ's deal with their weaknesses.

    I find myself needing a lot of compliments to feel good about myself... find it difficult to accept the end of any friendship but once I do... moving on couldn't be easier... find it to difficult to accept negative things about ppl close to me and usually I have to get ppl to be upfront about negative things about themselves to avoid me getting pissed off and I try to find negative things in ppl at the beginning of knowing them just so I wouldn't get too pissed off at them in the future and know not to let it affect our friendship... I find myself getting extremely annoyed when people tell me the most obvious things I'm already are such as me talking about something no one cares about except me... it's just very insulting to me... as for friends who are ESFJ's... I love saying nice things because they're selfless people and they sincerely appreciate my compliments... they're very strong with making me feel good about myself and I'm very strong at them making feel good about themselves too... I can't see myself getting upset with another ESFJ even if both of us chat with each other and we're both in crappy moods... we'll both end up making feel each other feel better... other ESFJ's love to have positive thoughts about other ppl in their heads just like me and enjoy anything positive about people close to them.

    Anyway, I would like to know how other ESFJ's interact with people of the same type.
    Last edited by RandomShadowPersonality; 03-21-2013 at 02:07 PM.



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    ESFJ - The Caregivers

    I can get very emotional. I have to realllllllly concentrate on where somoeone is coming from if they are giving me negative feedback and convince myself that it's for the best. When I get in sad moods I have a few people who I can call that will always talk to me and cheer me up. I tend to cry a lot when I'm sad. When I was younger I would do it in public, I've now stopped that.

    I hate having roommates, but hate conflict even more. Currently I have a couple renting a room from me, in a 2 bed 1 bath apartment and they are very messy. So for the last 3 months I've been cleaning up after 3 people but I haven't said anything because I dont want to argue about it. I'm somewhat at my boiling point with them. I swear I've asked the guy about 5 times to make sure to recycle and I'm still digging stuff out of the overflowing trash (which is his chore to take out) that gets recycled. My only saving grace is that the are moving out at the end of the month.

    I'm not sure what their types are. She is very dominant and is somewhat bitchy. Like last night at around 8 pm I mentioned that someone was stopping to check out the room (rerenting it out after they leave) and she rolled her eyes at me and walked away with in a big huff. He is her little bitch. He doesn't do anything without talking to her or getting her permission first. But usually pretty nice when I talk to him although it's super annoying when I ask him a question like "hey can we talk about what day you guys are moving out" and all he can say is "yeah I think she said we will move out on blah blah blah". Like really, get a freaking backbone.

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    ENTJ - The Executives

    Quote Originally Posted by kcbrink View Post
    I can get very emotional. I have to realllllllly concentrate on where somoeone is coming from if they are giving me negative feedback and convince myself that it's for the best. When I get in sad moods I have a few people who I can call that will always talk to me and cheer me up. I tend to cry a lot when I'm sad. When I was younger I would do it in public, I've no stopped that.

    I hate having roommates, but mores I hate conflict. Currently I have a couple renting a room from me in a 2 bed 1 bath apartment and they are very messy. So for the last 3 months I've been cleaning up after 3 people but I haven't said anything because I dont want to argue about it. I'm somewhat at my boiling point with them. I swear I've asked the guy about 5 times to make sure to recycle and I'm still digging stuff out of the overflowing trash (which is his chore to take out) that gets recycled. My only saving grace is that the are moving out at the end of the month.
    I feel you and I have to concrete as well on things when people give me negative feedback... I cry a lot when I'm sad too and usually don't like doing it in front of people... I guess deep down... we're easily aggregated by negative things about other people... I know I am... I try to find more positive energy on people I like rather than negative energy on some people and things but it's hard.

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    ESFJ - The Caregivers

    It's hard sometimes. But I like who I am. I wear my heart on my sleeve. I definitely like to know what my downfalls are though, since I want to be able to improve them. I'm 27 now, I hated being a teenager. I think that was the worst time of my life. Not only being naturally emotional but going through all those changes made it even harder. I've definitely come a long way since then and now able to put my strengths to use. I work as a travel rep for a fair trade NGO (helping women in East Africa overcome poverty). I absolutely love it. When I do the roadshows I feel like a rockstar. I'm out there talking to everyone, I get affirmations all day, and I get the satisfaction of knowing I'm helping women at the same time. The only other job I really want to do is to be a flight attendant. lol

    Funny side note, I've also been a child care provider and a massage therapist. Both of which are ideal careers for ESFJ's

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    ENTJ - The Executives

    Quote Originally Posted by kcbrink View Post
    It's hard sometimes. But I like who I am. I wear my heart on my sleeve. I definitely like to know what my downfalls are though, since I want to be able to improve them. I'm 27 now, I hated being a teenager. I think that was the worst time of my life. Not only being naturally emotional but going through all those changes made it even harder. I've definitely come a long way since then and now able to put my strengths to use. I work as a travel rep for a fair trade NGO (helping women in East Africa overcome poverty). I absolutely love it. When I do the roadshows I feel like a rockstar. I'm out there talking to everyone, I get affirmations all day, and I get the satisfaction of knowing I'm helping women at the same time. The only other job I really want to do is to be a flight attendant. lol

    Funny side note, I've also been a child care provider and a massage therapist. Both of which are ideal careers for ESFJ's
    I like who I am too and I like to improve on my downfalls too... yeah... being a teenager was the worst for me as well.


     

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