My boyfriend and I have almost been dating for two months. I'm American and he is from China, this is not a long-distance relationship. We go to the same high school. We had a little bump in the road, and he told me I was sometimes selfish and that bothered him. That when he thought about the future and of possible marriage it gave him axiety, slightly scared him, and in present made him quite angry. Marriage is a long ways and I told him thinking about that now is too much. However, I agree that I can be selfish, mostly only with my mom and I understand family respect is important to him. I know I'm a jerk to her and I'm trying to be more considerate of her. So that's not the problem. The thing is...it also has to do with the way i "treat" him.
He always comes to walk me to my classes. Opens the car door for me. Buys me things. Always showers me in love. Meets me during breaks. Pays for me. Texts me first. Always notices when I am upset.
And all I can ever do, is accept his kindness. I don't know what to do in return.I do not have a lot of money but on important holidays or birthdays i put a lot of effort to make him a gift. I am learning how to cook right now so I can become more responsible and win his heart through his stomach. He loves it when I do girly things like cook and clean so I'm working hard to improve those skills. I never freak out when he opens up about something thats bothering him about others or me, I am calm. I want to show him I appreciate him, because he hates always doing "everything." I need help on how to make him feel loooooved just as much as I am loved by him even though I don't have money.
I don't want to be considered clingy or become used/abused/bullied like I have been in previous relationships. need honest help!!