I get questioned about my type a lot just from my posts. And I'm curious as to what you all really think I am. I posted this in the what is my personality type called "Am I really ESTJ?" and I thought it might be helpful to re-post in the specific forums which I've been suggested might be my type.
If you've read some of my posts please have your say!
Those who haven't, here are a few pointers which I think are the basis of my personality preferences:
- I'm family oriented. I'm not typically traditional but I follow mostly what my parents out of respect/to please them.
- I'm a serious daydreamer, I think A LOT about events that have happened and over-analyse/breadth of thought - what I make of them, what they mean and if needed, prepare how I'm going to handle a situation in the best way - what I want to say, how I'm going to say so that I'm considerate of the other person's feelings but still be assertive.
- If I have a crush on someone I idealise them, I imagine being with that person and how it's going to be, what they're like, what we'll talk about. I find it hard to express to someone I like that I like them, I'm actually very quiet at the beginning of a relationship - I've been told that I seem like I don't want to be in the relationship but in fact I really really like them, and I have constant butterflies just thinking about them.
- I want the world to be a better place, I believe everyone can get on well with each other if we took the time and patience and understood each other.
- I really hate it when people say unnecessary unkind words - "Hey, that's not a nice thing to say, that's a human being there, they have feelings, you're not perfect!"
- I like to be organised and plan things, but I'm not controlling of anyone, although if I spot that someone might get hurt/in danger then I let them know.
- When I'm in a relationship I love spending time with my bf and love physical affection but not overly so, although I'm not emotionally clingy, I actually like my space, but that doesn't mean that I don't think about them a lot.
- I love asking people questions about them, and learning more about them. I get really excited (internally and externally) when I've hit that point when that person opens up and I see what makes them tick, when they are happy I laugh, when they're sad I feel kind of hurt inside.
- When meeting someone for the first time I can usually tell what kind of person they are in their interaction/how they're going to be.
- When in a sticky situation I can be objective and still make a decision as well as considering the other person's feelings. Actually it's the emotions that get my attention first.
- When meeting new people/making new friends, I'm quite quiet at first because I'm cautious, I want to get to know the other person first before opening up. So basically I go through a warm up stage, although I can drive myself to be more open if I am really in the mood and consider it important.
More info! thought I'd paste some more from my original thread.
When I was in my teens, I loved reading tons of books, I could read a book in 2 hours and then go onto the next one, I spent a lot of my pocket money on books. I also loved writing poetry, stories, and daydreaming - I used to rush through my homework or even in class just so I could spend the rest of the time thinking and dreaming about things, I loved being in the school plays, singing and dancing, loved music, always wanted to learn the piano (I'm now learning the guitar cos piano lessons are too expensive). I loved talking to my friends over the phone for hours on end. I hated school in-groups and out-groups - I was in the middle group. I hated the brash bullies and the tacky girls, and I really hated it when they were mean to me and others.
I hated being told by my parents that I should do this, or be like so-and-so's kids....no one seemed to understand me, and I felt like no one else in my family understood me. I always wanted my own way - not in a spoilt way, but I somehow always got what I wanted because I asked nicely.
The subjects I loved most was English Lit and Lang, Art, Geography, Music and strangely enough Religious Education (probably because I started making up elaborate stories about Jesus and found it sooo much fun).
Then when I turned 15 I started going clubbing and LOVED it...dancing and dressing up and having a laugh with my girlfriends - YES I was that young tut tut.
I've always been very lucky - there's always someone willing and want to help me out - through thick and thin. Not sure if that's anything to do with type though.
I did all of those things because I loved them...hmmm...I can't think of any other concrete reason except that they made me happy...I could spend a whole day thinking...and also people-watch and wonder what their lives were like, or I would make up stories in my head.
How do they relate to me as a whole now? I probably don't read as many books now and I do want to and intend to just that been so busy swotting up on career changing, I still love dancing so I incorporate it as a workout. I don't really sing anymore. I still don't like fake people, and all sorts of pretentiousness.
I went through a period of not having many close friends (just cos of some bad times), but now making some new friends and getting close to them I really like spending time with them, I like organising get-togethers with my work friends so we can spend some quality time together.
I have a better relationship with my parents, they're still very hell-bent of how I should behave etc and this annoys the hell out of me, and my mum and I can have quite heated debates sometimes - she thinks I look into things too much and am too sensitive, I think she's too controlling and doesn't think about me as an individual. I do get hurt easily if someone pushes the wrong button, work-wise though I am quite emotionally-resilient.
Weird thing is, I don't really feel the need to belong (which is essentially one of ESTJ preferences), what always seems to be in the background is wondering whether I am liked by people, because I never like to be misunderstood. This isn't as strong as it used to be, I'm definitely more accepting of myself and I've learnt that I don't need to be best buddys with everyone.
Note: I have been told I come across as ESFJ, INFJ or even ENFJ.
My assessment results were ESTJ/INTJ.
Anyway, looking forward to your views x