You would think she was more ESTJ at times. Where should I start? I have been having a few personal problems that have been getting me down, and it's not like me to express everything, unlike herself who has some anger problems, and tells everyone how she feels. So anyway, without putting her down too much. Basically at one point she got information out of me, on what was getting me down, and then she starts arguing with me about it. We seem to have the same argument about my future over, and over again. She just doesn't seem to listen or understand.
She only hears what she wants to. She knows I am unhappy but she approaches in the wrong way. She shouts at me instead of just talking. She used to do this when I was losing a lot of weight because of stress, and she never listened to my problems. She would just assume what was wrong, and what was the right way to go about it. She is really getting me down. I have a deadline now, and if I don't decide by the end of June, she said that I will be wishing that I was dead.
She only controls who I see friends wise, and she banned me from seeing who is now my ex boyfriend. When I did go to see him, because obviously I want to. When she found out that I was seeing him, she guilt tripped me. I ended up sneaking out at seeing him twice in about two weeks. But because of this, he broke up with me. Now with me current boyfriend, she rings him, and bitches to him about me. He just agrees with her to make her happy. Which then gives her motive to say, "Even your boyfriend agrees with me." Which as you can imagine, makes me feel worse.
I get all the hassle because the reaction I will give to her bullying is tears. Where as my brother will fight back. She is too afraid of him. And my dad is obviously an adult so he can speak up, although sometimes she can pick on him, when drunk.
How do I basically get through to her, without her making me the bad guy?