I totally agree.When there is a balance in the INTP-ESFJ relationship then it's a great thing, the INTP (from my experience only) opens up and the ESFJ listens more. I like that a lot. A switch of roles so to speak. I was once in a relationship with a girl who was more of an extrovert than me, way "louder" in a way and sometimes I just couldn't wait to be alone yet we lived together. It's weird.
But to answer the quaestion I have mostly been drawn to INTP's or INTJ and even ISTP's. I have a thing for the Thinkers. They inlfuence me in the best possible way.