ESFJ: The Control Freak

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    ENTJ - The Executives

    ESFJ: The Control Freak

    Champions of rule and tradition, defender of convention and order, the ESFJ values predictability, consistency, promptness, and continuity. This love of order, stability, and tradition most often manifests as a fanatical and almost compulsive control freakery, combined with an anal-retentive streak that is at once maddening and infuriating to those around them.

    ESFJs are often friendly, outgoing, and generous, at least until you cross them. This generous nature, in combination with their obsessive need for control, makes them ideal for such jobs as Jedi master, senior bank teller, or middle management at a large chain department store. Most ESFJs die of heart attacks, at least the ones who aren't slain in a galactic power coup made possible by the rigid, dogmatic inflexibility and self-absorbed narcissism of their Jedi order.

    RECREATION: ESFJs are fond of celebrating birthdays, bar mitzvahs, initiations into the grand order of the Golden Dawn, and other momentous occasions. They also take delight in creating elaborate schedules on their PDAs, memorizing the Periodic Table of Elements, and ripping off the heads of those who cross them before laying their eggs in the victim's neck, which hatch into larvae that devour the victim over a period of many years.

    COMPATIBILITY: ESFJs are most compatible with ESTJs, who love and cherish the ESFJ's control freakery.

    Famous ESFJs: Fame? A Jedi craves not these things!
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    ENFP - The Inspirers


    Quote Originally Posted by openedskittles View Post
    Champions of rule and tradition, defender of convention and order, the ESFJ values predictability, consistency, promptness, and continuity. This love of order, stability, and tradition most often manifests as a fanatical and almost compulsive control freakery, combined with an anal-retentive streak that is at once maddening and infuriating to those around them.

    ESFJs are often friendly, outgoing, and generous, at least until you cross them. This generous nature, in combination with their obsessive need for control, makes them ideal for such jobs as Jedi master, senior bank teller, or middle management at a large chain department store. Most ESFJs die of heart attacks, at least the ones who aren't slain in a galactic power coup made possible by the rigid, dogmatic inflexibility and self-absorbed narcissism of their Jedi order.

    RECREATION: ESFJs are fond of celebrating birthdays, bar mitzvahs, initiations into the grand order of the Golden Dawn, and other momentous occasions. They also take delight in creating elaborate schedules on their PDAs, memorizing the Periodic Table of Elements, and ripping off the heads of those who cross them before laying their eggs in the victim's neck, which hatch into larvae that devour the victim over a period of many years.

    COMPATIBILITY: ESFJs are most compatible with ESTJs, who love and cherish the ESFJ's control freakery.

    Famous ESFJs: Fame? A Jedi craves not these things!
    rofl!

    This reminds me of my ESFJ ex boy friend. One time in particular comes to mind. I had spent a week planning a secret romantic get away at the beach. I packed his favorite lunch, brought a blanket, sunscreen, and a frisbee and successfully kept it from him . We drove up together but I never told him the ending location and never told him more directions than he needed. He freaked out! I couldn't figure why he was yelling at me, so when I asked what was wrong, he went crazy saying he hated not knowing where he was going. Even though, I had been telling him several miles in advance what exit to take, he hated not being in control and not knowing the final destination, even if it was for a "romantic surprise". Then when he found out where he was going when we got close enough, he continued to yell at me. I decided then to never surprise him again, I thought I was being romantic... but he just thought it was annoying.
    Last edited by Charlie; 07-25-2009 at 09:02 AM. Reason: sucking at life.

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    INTP - The Thinkers

    I have a lot of trouble with ESFJs having Control Freak problems. I mean really big trouble like ambush and attempted murder of me, and even worse than this!

    I think they all suffer from it. Sometimes they manage to hide it.
    They get spooked by the ENTP Rattlesnake. The captive Snake may dance to the Horseman's tune, but it is an illusion. He can't hear him!

    The Boss has to paint a believable picture but the Horseman is not equipped to do this!

    Best love matches ESFJ x ISTJ Dog
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    Quote Originally Posted by Charlie View Post
    rofl!

    This reminds me of my ESFJ ex boy friend. One time in particular comes to mind. I had spent a week planning a secret romantic get away at the beach. I packed his favorite lunch, brought a blanket, sunscreen, and a frisbee and successfully kept it from him . We drove up together but I never told him the ending location and never told him more directions than he needed. He freaked out! I couldn't figure why he was yelling at me, so when I asked what was wrong, he went crazy saying he hated not knowing where he was going. Even though, I had been telling him several miles in advance what exit to take, he hated not being in control and not knowing the final destination, even if it was for a "romantic surprise". Then when he found out where he was going when we got close enough, he continued to yell at me. I decided then to never surprise him again, I thought I was being romantic... but he just thought it was annoying.
    I HATE knowing about the existance of surprises ahead of time.

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    INFJ - The Protectors

    I lived with an ESFJ last year. She slept with a weather radio by her bed so then if a storm was coming in the middle of the night she knew so then she could be in "control" of the situation if something bad were to happen.


    ... while I myself in the other room figured "hey, if a tornado comes and gets me in the middle of the night then so be it - because what are the chances of that happening anyway?"

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    Quote Originally Posted by thegirlcandance View Post
    ... while I myself in the other room figured "hey, if a tornado comes and gets me in the middle of the night then so be it - because what are the chances of that happening anyway?"
    Quite high, where I live, actually.

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    INTP - The Thinkers

    Quote Originally Posted by thegirlcandance View Post
    I lived with an ESFJ last year. She slept with a weather radio by her bed so then if a storm was coming in the middle of the night she knew so then she could be in "control" of the situation if something bad were to happen."
    LOL. I don't think I'm that bad but yes I agree that unfortanetly I do tend to want to control the ''situation'' and I hate that about being an ESFJ. Even just a fwe weeks ago for thanksgiving dinner with friends, I hardly stopped and just relaxed. I need to keep everything clean so our guests wouldn't have to worry about it, all the while knowing they couldn't have cared less is there were dishes on the counter. I also hate being the needy one in our ESFJ/INTP relationship and I tend to badly express myself sometimes around her. Yeah ok.....BEER TIME !
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