I wanted to confirm if I'm an ESFJ because I'm not quite if I'm still an ESFJ. I'm sure I was once an ESFJ, I always cared about what people thought of me, which was always my main concern back in High School. I'm unsure if I could still say that I'm an ESFJ today.
I am not a very talkative person neither am I a social person but at the same time, I always have the desire to go out and be with my friends or someone who is close to me. I have the tendency to value close friendships and want friendship for a lifetime. I do talk to people but I'm always nervous or shaking whenever I talk to new people, my body and hands get cold if I talk to people that I am not close with for a very long periods of time. I don't think I could handle being in a situation as if all attention were on me and that means, having to talk to a lot of people at a party for an example. I also have a friend who is also an ESFJ, and I find him to be way too talkative and I can't seem to catch up with what he has to say sometimes. I feel that I need time in order for our friendship to develop but he already feels connected with me and we just recently met! I seem to get along more with Introverts rather than Extroverts. I feel more at home with them.
My tests also say that I'm a balance of Extrovert and Introvert. After reading about ISFJ, thinking that I'm an ISFJ, I can't say that I'm an ISFJ but I am sure that I'm an "SJ", if saying this at all helps.
My friends say that I am a fun person but at the same time, I'm not very talkative, neither would I feel comfortable initiating conversations with strangers or making friends with random people or the people that I am surrounded with. I could only maintain a conversation for a short while or I'd feel uncomfortable afterwards, especially if you're someone I don't know or someone I don't talk to everyday. I am friendly and I'd say hi to everyone, if they also seem friendly and would say hi back. I am not emotionally in tune with people's feelings, neither would I know how to react if a friend was hurt or upset. I could easily move on after a relationship has ended, especially if the relationship did not work out. But in the first few weeks after the break up, I'd feel lonely and I'd have the desire to talk to someone that I could connect with again, and hopefully finding someone who could replace that person. I don't mind dealing with conflicts or constructive criticism. I have trust issues, and I'm very picky with who I keep in touch with but at the same time, I have the desire to talk to a lot of people. I also tend to mimic different personalities and different people. I always think that I am right, and yes, I'm also a perfectionist. I am sure that I'm not an intuitive person but I'm unsure if I'm still a Feeler or a Thinker but I'm definitely a Judger since I have the tendency to follow schedules and plans rather than living my life moment to moment.
Could anyone help me with this?