We had an ongoing sexual relationship for a month. I thought it was so much more than a hookup, we discussed ex lovers, families, watched a lot of youtube together, stayed up extremely late talking after sex (to the point where we were tired, he always tries to continue the conversation with me even as Im falling asleep and I find that so cute and childlike).. I really really like this guy, even though he's not "deep" or really capable of deep analysis or deeper emotions. I like him for his positivity. I dont generally know this type, nor do I hang out with a lot of ESFPs, but I like that he's so open to learning.
Then I got a lip sore, and he being a health nut in general freaked out, and our sexual relationship was cut short. I was hoping that wouldn't happen but as soon as I saw his reaction my heart sank I knew it was over. I was so upset by his reaction that I wrote him a long email message, explaining my feelings, which he ignored. He ignored it for days and days and I thought - thats it he doesnt care and I was so hurt by it I deleted him off facebook. After I deleted him I still didnt hear from him, no call no text, nothing.
One day I just texted him "whats up" and we ended up meeting with some of my friends at a park. He acted like nothing was wrong, talked casually. And after that I never heard from him again. I then sent him long text messages which he did not reply. He only said this "I need some time to organise myself as Im going through a crisis". He said he had some financial things to sort out and he needed to look for a job and had made too many impulsive choices.
And I assume the impulsive choices included me? Me= booty call? Does that mean he only ever used me for sex and now regrets it? I can only read it that way.
I cant work out if he ever wants to see me again. I have sent him some heartbroken texts which he did not bother to reply. I cant get over this guy. He kept telling me I was amazing and he does this. I dont fucking get it. I feel really sad if the basis of our relationship was mostly sexual, I was really starting to fall in love with him..
Can anyone give advice especially if you've dated an INFP? You can say whatever you want I promise I wont be offended I know INFPs can be really intense sometimes. I dont really want to change myself for this ESFP but all I want to do is communicate with him.. but he doesnt even want to and Im stuck and lost. I dont want to write him off as a jerk.
Im just really stunned at how suddenly he cut me off.. How do I get him back? I feel like its a lost cause. I cry at night because of this. In the day Im fine. But not at night. I dont hate him, I just want to know whats going on in his head.