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This is a discussion on Ask an ESFP within the ESFP Forum - The Performers forums, part of the SP's Temperament Forum- The Creators category; Originally Posted by visionarypioneer Yeah I've been on the other side of the spectrum for too long and it feels ...

  1. #1041
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    Quote Originally Posted by visionarypioneer View Post
    Yeah I've been on the other side of the spectrum for too long and it feels like I"m living an unfulfilled life.
    Oh.. I mean, i remembered my answer. XD

    What i meant there is, before doing something, think about if it will benefit you or not..if no benefits, and it's just a product of hedonistic behavior, stop and think about it.. It's better not to do it than regret it later

  2. #1042
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    Quote Originally Posted by visionarypioneer View Post
    What is it about INTJ's that keeps you coming back?
    Their minds... they constantly intrigue me with their thoughts. They're amazing teachers and I love to learn. And when they open their shells and let you in, they are some of the most amazing and giving people.

    Getting them to let you in, though... that's the kicker.

  3. #1043

    what makes you doubt a relationship?

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    Well, there is this ESFP I met recently.
    At first, I was very intimidated so he has been making moves toward me. Still a bit intimidated (He has a lot of qualities I love !), but now I have to be the one initiating conversations if I wanna chat. I hope he has not gotten bored with me already

    How as an INTJ, could I seduce him? I'm so bad at it ..

  6. #1045
    INFJ - The Protectors

    What are some things that ESFP's like in a romantic partner? Also any traits that are bound to turn you off. How do you usually pursue relationships? Like do you like to do the chasing or being chased. How important is attention? Looking to write a story and I can't think of a better muse lol.

  7. #1046
    ESFP

    Quote Originally Posted by Rafiki View Post
    what makes you doubt a relationship?
    If the spark isn't there anymore... or if I am putting in more than my partner. Then I begin to doubt. What I do with the doubt depends on how invested I am.

    Quote Originally Posted by Nyarlathothep View Post
    Well, there is this ESFP I met recently.
    At first, I was very intimidated so he has been making moves toward me. Still a bit intimidated (He has a lot of qualities I love !), but now I have to be the one initiating conversations if I wanna chat. I hope he has not gotten bored with me already

    How as an INTJ, could I seduce him? I'm so bad at it ..
    I love INTJs! You guys are great but you move so SLOW >.<

    How are your conversations going? What do you guys chat about? Are these conversations in person or via a text medium.

    Because we ESFPs are Se-dom, we often suffer from out-of-sight, out-of-mind syndrome. We need your constant presence to remind us just why you intrigue us. We need to feel that physical connection and pull. If we don't get that, it can be easy for us to move onto the next shiny thing.

    If you'd like to seduce him, invite him out. Blow his mind with your intelligence and make an effort to touch him. We're very much touch oriented and if we're attracted to you, your touch can send us into tailspins. I recently went on a date with a guy I found very attractive. After dinner we went for drinks at a bar, and while we were there, we just kept moving closer and closer together. I was trying to explain something to him and he reached out an caressed my hand and my brain just short-circuited. I couldn't finish a thought for the life of me when he was touching me... all I could think about was how much I wanted to kiss him. Want to seduce us? That's the way to do it... be natural but don't be afraid to be physical.

    Quote Originally Posted by visionarypioneer View Post
    What are some things that ESFP's like in a romantic partner? Also any traits that are bound to turn you off. How do you usually pursue relationships? Like do you like to do the chasing or being chased. How important is attention? Looking to write a story and I can't think of a better muse lol.
    I like genuine people. I can tell if someone is lying to me and I cannot respect liars, especially ones that think I'm dumb enough to fall for their crap. I am willing to trust people at their word and give them the benefit of the doubt when we first meet, but being a liar is a quick way to get on my blacklist. Controlling people are also a turn-off. Co-dependence is a big no-no. I'm a very independent and free spirit and I run away from anyone who feels like they're trying to fetter me.

    As for what appeals to me... someone who shares my interests. I'm a geek so I love video games, Star Trek & Star Wars, the Marvel and DC movies... I also love deep conversations where I feel like I've learned a little more about the world than I did before we started chatting. People who cause me to pause and think are some of my favorite people in the world. I also like a bit of mystery. People I can read / get easily are no fun... give me someone who's a little tougher to crack, and I'm addicted. I will pursue and sometimes be overly intense if I'm interested in someone. And I try to move things along way too fast. I scare off so many IN**'s that way. T_T

    As for attention, I enjoy it but I don't feel like I seek it. I just somehow naturally end up getting it. (^_^;;
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  8. #1047
    INFJ - The Protectors

    I like genuine people. I can tell if someone is lying to me and I cannot respect liars, especially ones that think I'm dumb enough to fall for their crap. I am willing to trust people at their word and give them the benefit of the doubt when we first meet, but being a liar is a quick way to get on my blacklist. Controlling people are also a turn-off. Co-dependence is a big no-no. I'm a very independent and free spirit and I run away from anyone who feels like they're trying to fetter me.

    As for what appeals to me... someone who shares my interests. I'm a geek so I love video games, Star Trek & Star Wars, the Marvel and DC movies... I also love deep conversations where I feel like I've learned a little more about the world than I did before we started chatting. People who cause me to pause and think are some of my favorite people in the world. I also like a bit of mystery. People I can read / get easily are no fun... give me someone who's a little tougher to crack, and I'm addicted. I will pursue and sometimes be overly intense if I'm interested in someone. And I try to move things along way too fast. I scare off so many IN**'s that way. T_T

    As for attention, I enjoy it but I don't feel like I seek it. I just somehow naturally end up getting it. (^_^;;[/QUOTE]

    This is great let's say there was some lying that may have caused some sort of drama but it somehow comes back to a truth if that makes sense. Also how bad of a lie would it have to be in order to walk away completely? Could there be something that changes your mind at that point? This last question is pretty important. How do you respond to people who have a tendency to put their foot in their mouth when they are nervous lol?
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  9. #1048

    Quote Originally Posted by ametan View Post
    I love INTJs! You guys are great but you move so SLOW >.<

    How are your conversations going? What do you guys chat about? Are these conversations in person or via a text medium.

    Because we ESFPs are Se-dom, we often suffer from out-of-sight, out-of-mind syndrome. We need your constant presence to remind us just why you intrigue us. We need to feel that physical connection and pull. If we don't get that, it can be easy for us to move onto the next shiny thing.

    If you'd like to seduce him, invite him out. Blow his mind with your intelligence and make an effort to touch him. We're very much touch oriented and if we're attracted to you, your touch can send us into tailspins. I recently went on a date with a guy I found very attractive. After dinner we went for drinks at a bar, and while we were there, we just kept moving closer and closer together. I was trying to explain something to him and he reached out an caressed my hand and my brain just short-circuited. I couldn't finish a thought for the life of me when he was touching me... all I could think about was how much I wanted to kiss him. Want to seduce us? That's the way to do it... be natural but don't be afraid to be physical.
    Well, on our first date, I hesitated making moves, as I was wondering whether he'd want me to or not so I spent the date overthinking OTL
    He's very respectful and lets me time :)

    I like talking to him. I talk to him about my job sometimes : I work as a literature teacher, so I tell him about books I use in classes and there are some that he wants to borrow from me since he can relate to ideas expressed. We have some common interests to talk about as well ^^ I tend to find conversation subjects rather easily (Which makes me be rather talkative at times xD) so it can vary. We do both : We talk in person when we both have free time, but we mostly do via texting.

    But maybe even if we see each other a lot, there may be a moment he'd get bored

    We met up few times and there is a mutual attraction I could see. Also, I got used of him enough for physical contact like this (I once massaged his back since he was tired there because of sport), but I was not aware that it could be so strong to seduce someone. What I would want would be to find how to make him fall for me (For something more serious)
    Last edited by Nyarlathothep; 11-21-2017 at 02:10 PM.
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  10. #1049
    ESFP

    Quote Originally Posted by visionarypioneer View Post

    This is great let's say there was some lying that may have caused some sort of drama but it somehow comes back to a truth if that makes sense. Also how bad of a lie would it have to be in order to walk away completely? Could there be something that changes your mind at that point? This last question is pretty important. How do you respond to people who have a tendency to put their foot in their mouth when they are nervous lol?
    It depends on the lie and the reason someone told it. If the lie was to avoid getting into trouble with me or damaging our relationship, then there's no forgiveness. If there is a logical reason for the lie then I'm more likely to consider giving someone a second chance.

    As for how bad would the lie have to be... if it is something that broke my trust or shook my faith in someone, then I'd have to walk away. It would always be niggling in the back of my mind and I could never fully trust the person again. I would always be second-guessing what they are telling me, which is not a state that I like to find myself in. If I give myself to a relationship, I want to give myself 100%. I don't want to be in one where I have to hold part of myself back because I feel like I need to protect myself from my partner.

    I adore people who tend to put their foot in their mouth when they're nervous. I find their awkwardness rather adorable and I tend to tease them mercilessly about it if we're close. If we're strangers, I try to gloss over the awkwardness and make them as comfortable as possible.

    Quote Originally Posted by Nyarlathothep View Post
    Well, on our first date, I hesitated making moves, as I was wondering whether he'd want me to or not so I spent the date overthinking OTL
    He's very respectful and lets me time :)

    I like talking to him. I talk to him about my job sometimes : I work as a literature teacher, so I tell him about books I use in classes and there are some that he wants to borrow from me since he can relate to ideas expressed. We have some common interests to talk about as well ^^ I tend to find conversation subjects rather easily (Which makes me be rather talkative at times xD) so it can vary. We do both : We talk in person when we both have free time, but we mostly do via texting.

    But maybe even if we see each other a lot, there may be a moment he'd get bored

    We met up few times and there is a mutual attraction I could see. Also, I got used of him enough for physical contact like this (I once massaged his back since he was tired there because of sport), but I was not aware that it could be so strong to seduce someone. What I would want would be to find how to make him fall for me (For something more serious)
    Does he seem bored? If so, pull back a little. Let him do a bit of the chasing. If we're getting along and suddenly our romantic interest begins to pull back, it drives us ESFPs crazy. We have to find out why our charisma and charm are no longer doing the trick. We're used to having the upper hand in relationships and driving them the way that we want them to go... when that doesn't work, we're puzzled, intrigued, and ready to up our game to get you to re-invest.

    Also, be careful about getting too physical too early. We like challenges. If you give in too easily, we may just move on to the next target. Unless you blow our minds in bed. Then we'll keep coming back for more because we're all about seeking pleasure in the here-and-now. (^_~
    Last edited by ametan; 11-22-2017 at 06:00 AM. Reason: grammar >.<
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    INFJ - The Protectors

    Quote Originally Posted by ametan View Post
    It depends on the lie and the reason someone told it. If the lie was to avoid getting into trouble with me or damaging our relationship, then there's no forgiveness. If there is a logical reason for the lie then I'm more likely to consider giving someone a second chance.

    As for how bad would the lie have to be... if it is something that broke my trust or shook my faith in someone, then I'd have to walk away. It would always be niggling in the back of my mind and I could never fully trust the person again. I would always be second-guessing what they are telling me, which is not a state that I like to find myself in. If I give myself to a relationship, I want to give myself 100%. I don't want to be in one where I have to hold part of myself back because I feel like I need to protect myself from my partner.

    I adore people who tend to put their foot in their mouth when they're nervous. I find their awkwardness rather adorable and I tend to tease them mercilessly about it if we're close. If we're strangers, I try to gloss over the awkwardness and make them as comfortable as possible.



    Does he seem bored? If so, pull back a little. Let him do a bit of the chasing. If we're getting along and suddenly our romantic interest begins to pull back, it drives us ESFPs crazy. We have to find out why our charisma and charm is no longer doing the trick. We're used to having the upper hand in relationships and driving them the way that we want them to go... when that doesn't work, we're puzzled, intrigued, and ready to up our game to get you to re-invest.

    Also, be careful about getting too physical too early. We like challenges. If you give in too easily, we may just move on to the next target. Unless you blow our minds in bed. Then we'll keep coming back for more because we're all about seeking pleasure in the here-and-now. (^_~
    Now that I had some time to think about it I guess it would be more out of confusion or awkwardness than trying to intentionally be malicious. Oh one of the main reasons I do like ESFP's is because of this comforting feeling to be myself. Like they make me want to be a bit more honest in a way that is slightly out of my comfort zone. It's just that as composed as I try to display myself the passions make me more unpredictable because I'm exploring who I am and what this person means to me. I feel like I'm in the middle of some drama show lol.

    I'm glad you like this because it's a more authentic expression even if it's not a stoic coolness that NT types tend to display. Also I think I gave away part of the secret of why an INFJ may pull back not sure if that diminishes the quality of the person as far as intrigue. For that same reason I may be reluctant to pursue one if that's the case lol.


     
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