This is a discussion on Ask an ESFP within the ESFP Forum - The Performers forums, part of the SP's Temperament Forum- The Creators category; Originally Posted by Fat Bozo You mean put off things we don't want to do in order to do things ...
I hate being alone. I'd happily spend all of my time around people. So yes, I'd say I'm VERY extroverted
First off I want to say that I love ESFPs. They know to show love and how to receive love. Their childlike wonder is very attractive,occasionally aggravating, but mostly cute. My question is this: how come you lovely ladies cannot take even the most carefully worded, objective, loving, constructive criticism? I've calmly tried to explain to my ESFP lady friend how I felt about some of the things that she was doing that were harmful to me, our work crew, and herself. It was like I'd stabbed her, she looked so wounded, which was then followed by unspoken anger. I could tell she was upset with herself, upset with me, and I felt terrible but she knows that I love her. I wouldn't have taken the time to confront her if I didn't care. Could you ESFP's please explain why you take criticism so personally? (By the way you guys look really cute when you're angry .)
And I wish I looked cute when I'm angry- I tend to scare people, lol. :-(
I really don't mind objective criticism. Just make sure it's accurate, and not petty.
That's legit. Like I said though, I don't get mad about criticism, I just start questioning everything I ever thought I was good at. I like my criticism sugarcoated!