This is a discussion on Ask an ESFP within the ESFP Forum - The Performers forums, part of the SP's Temperament Forum- The Creators category; Originally Posted by pancaketreehouse What's any paranoia look like for you guys? If you could explain your thoughts and all ...
My advice is to learn to deal with them because they're going through some shit, they're not there to annoy you. Maybe if you help them they wouldn't be so "annoying".
Man it's no wonder ESFPs have a bad reputation, I hope all of us ESFPs aren't like this.
Yeah we have a bad rep for bailing on people and writing them off, so ive heard. I try not to do that since it was done to me before and it hurt. I've gone thru suffering in my life so if someone else is I do my best to at least not ignore them. Just my 2c
Exceptions to this are when he won't pass that blunt lol. High paranoia is annoying, but also funny
Good news! All ESFPs are a little different. We all have our strengths and weaknesses like anybody else.Man it's no wonder ESFPs have a bad reputation, I hope all of us ESFPs aren't like this.
I don't bail on anybody just for being sad. The only time I have bailed is if someone has shown they just want to wallow in their misery forever and is *unwilling* to let me or anyone else help them. Keeping such a person in my life is not compassion, it's just a recipe for making my mental health fade.
I would like some advice. My younger 15-year old brother is clearly an ESFP. I'm not sure how to handle him and I'm also a bit worried about him/his future. He's intelligent but doesn't do any effort for school and cannot stay focused. He also doesn't like advice. He's extremely social and wants to talk to everyone, even if he doesn't know what to say. Yesterday he was giving someone directions about how to get somewhere - in French- while he didn't really know the way himself. He has quite some talents, but lacks discipline to develop them further: he is good with music (he hated the pianolessons though), writing stories, cooking, tasting, remembering names (especially of nature related things), tunes, movie quotes. He loves cartoons and playing with Lego (the only moment of the day that he is calm and concentrated). How can I stimulate him to concentrate or focus a little more? I understand that everyone is different, and the way he is is not just the result of his personality type. But I think it might help to know what kind of things stimulate other ESFP's to concentrate on something and develop their talents.