I'm friends with an ESFP who picked me out awhile ago. She's really nice. Anyway, she talks to me about stuff, like dating and whatever is going on in her life, and we get along pretty well, but I don't really want to ruin this friendship and I am not absolutely sure what I have to do actually be a valuable friend to her. If it doesn't matter to her I don't want to do it, because I'm incredibly low energy and avoid action when possible.
Does it matter to her if I don't really talk about myself much?
Does it matter to her if I do/don't seek her out to speak to her sometimes?
Would it matter to her if I make an effort to speak to any of her friends?
At the moment I know she values me for my strength/protective/brain qualities because she says so sometimes if she's going somewhere or doing something she wants my help with or whatever, but is that enough for her to feel like it's a good friendship?