So, I'm an ENFP female, and the ESFP guy and I have been talking NON-STOP for 1 month and a half straight, and it has been fun, exciting, and we have practically fallen in love. I know he's an ESFP for sure btw. He works at night, so we text and email sometimes while I'm at work til he goes to bed, then later at night before he goes to work and call and so on. It's tough fitting everything in, but we've been doing it for over a month. We've met 3 times for small amounts of time, but mostly our communication is at like a 9 out of 10 right now even though we haven't met up that many times.
Anyway, obviously his schedule is hectic, and he told me that from the beginning. He said a lot of friends and relationships can't deal with it. Of COURSE, I thought I could too until we would talk for hours about how much we liked each other, how much we had in common, etc and then he wouldn't be able to come see me and what not. We also had a firework physical connection that was the fastest I've ever had with any guy in such a short amount of time. He would constantly 'tell' me how he felt through phone and text though, so I felt better about it, but ya know actions speak louder than words. He also had an injury one week and was out of commission then and stressed about work and money. I was trying to be patient and supportive because I know I can shut down when stress is everywhere too. I was starting to get frustrated at him though not being able to commit to any plans or anything. I know ESFP's don't usually like committing to plans, I don't either, but with our schedules we kinda have too or there is no relationship.
So this past weekend, I unfortunately got drunk at my friends wedding, talked to him 4 times, said everything about how I feel, and we decided to break up or slow things down. Literally, the day before he was telling me he was falling in love with me still. Anyway, as for the drunken night, I can't exactly remember all the details, but he still texted me back the next morning. I asked him to refresh my memory, and then he said we decided to give it a rest and let him get his crap together. I then said 'oh, guess I shouldnt be textin u then, my head is still foggy.' He said 'we still can talk, just not as serious.' So what does that mean?
I know I obviously shouldn't be waiting on this guy, and I don't plan on it, but I do kinda want to keep chatting as friends or just keep the option open. We literally were talking about marriage and such (jokingly) because we liked each other so much and had so much in common, I'm seriously bummed out that I freaked out so much while drinking. I've heard other ENFP's say the same thing happens with them and ESFP's, quick flames and then just as quick burnout! So, am I just a victim of that?
Should I wait to see if he will contact me to talk? Or should I say something light and funny just to keep the chat going? What would be the best approach to get you back interested? Can't believe I was such a girl and blabbed all my feelings drunk! ugh! I wish I woulda just let it stay casual. Maybe he needs some time? I'm usually much more confident and collected on a daily basis. Is it typical of ESFP's to say how they feel but not match actions consistently? I'm so confused. Any ESFP opinions would be super helpful!!