I will throw myself into a relationship in the beginning, but I gradually back off and have noticed that this backing off can leave some people feeling insecure, as if my emotions are wavering. They're not, but I do need to feel free to pursue my curiosity wherever it takes me. My SO will always be my preference, but as an Se-dom, I dislike routine. I need to change it up once in a while. It doesn't mean that I want to change them up. But it does mean that I need them to be self-assured and confident in their own value.