I'm an INTJ man who has fallen in love with an ESFP woman. God help us both, right?
DO YOU HAVE ANY ADVICE ABOUT HOW TO MAKE THIS WORK?
HER: She is what I understand to be a textbook (Kiersey) ENFP: theater major in college, former actress, now a web designer and photographer. Loves people, loves taking photos, sensitive, loving, sensual.
HIM: I'm more on an INTX and was an English major in college (and a science major too), but I'm definitely a socialized introvert and very analytical. (Frankly, I'm not a big fan of my type as we can be real judgemental sticks-in-the-mud and I generally prefer the company of SPs who get out and DO things and live life and have FUN, but that's a subject for another day.)
She is very good looking, nice, affectionate, sensual, sexual and overall a very high-quality person (honest, successful, etc.) I feel lucky to be with her.
She seems to like my brains and many interests and patience and devotion to her. I love her kindness and warmth and enthusiasm for life.
Where we have butted heads is me kind of freaking out when she told me about her "promiscuous period" in college and also how much she travels both for work and for pleasure. At first I thought that would calm down, but I have come to realize that she loves jetting off all over the place, even if it means I'm unhappy at home. (And I mean she is sometimes gone working remote for WEEKS!)
Any thoughts, advice, suggestions, (condolences?). I am crazy about this woman, and I know she loves me back (though I understand that "love" for an ESFP can change in an instant). I'm wondering if we can make this work, and especially DO YOU HAVE ADVICE FOR AN INTJ ABOUT HOW TO MAKE AN ESFP HAPPY AND BE HAPPY WITH AN ESFP? THANKS!