I have a question to ask an ESFP!
I am a female INTP (Enneagram 9w1), dating a male ESFP (Enneagram 2w3). I absolutely adore this man, and haven't felt this much chemistry since dating an INFJ. I feel very calm and safe around him, and I can totally be myself without judgment. Also, I really love the care and selflessness he brings to the relationship as an Enneagram 2. I dated an ESFP once who was an Enneagram 7 and completely full of himself and very superficial and inattentive. But the ESFP traits really shine through my current guy's 2ish behavior and compliment really well. This is my issue, though: I want to be married, he is divorced and doesn't want to remarry. Common sense tells me that it cannot possibly work out, nor can it end well. Therefore, why should I waste my time with someone who is not interested in giving me what I want? His whole thing is, "Who cares? Carpe Diem! Let's just enjoy the moment and see how things unfold." <--- As an INTP, I am completely dissatisfied by this.
It's all very frustrating because I really enjoy his company, his energy, his love, all of it. But I don't think it makes practical sense to continue to get my heart involved with someone who does not have the same romantic and lifestyle goals as myself. I tried breaking up with him earlier this week. I explained my case thoroughly. He both understood and agreed with my points. But he also admitted that he cannot change who he is. And then of course because of our amazing chemistry, my sincere desire for him, and his infectious charm, he was able to woo me and win me over again with his love.
What should I do? End it once and for all, or continue to fall into his love trap and hope for the best....?