i am an ESFP, my mother is an ESTP, and my father is an INTJ.
it was HARD growing up with my dad. he was always pushing me, always disappointed, always putting down my "crazy" ideas for more practical ones; it was hell (on top of that, he's a borderline alcoholic).
now that i don't live with him, we get a long a lot better. i think it's because we both couldn't stand living with each other. he helps me with money on a regular basis, but that's about it. any emotional support i get from him seems forced, and whenever i call him, it sounds like he feels obligated to talk to me.
but, since we're pretty much polar opposites, i'll have to deal with it.
i don't have any advice, really. :( i just wanted to show my empathy and vent a little.