Hullo there ESFPs
So today I kind of had a, well, talk with an ESFP friend. It started out light but got deeper and ended up with her crying. Basically, I was trying to help and see if she was able to improve on something she didn't think she could improve on.
No it wasn't a intentionally-push-your-button thing, but somehow I managed to get her thinking about everything she's suppressed inside in an attempt to help her deal with those issues. And then she started tearing up for a bit—not sobbing but blinking tears. On the other hand, she didn't actually try to stop the conversation, in fact, she went and continued deeper into it and then couldn't control her emotions.
I realise that ESFPs do indeed subdue all their negative emotions inside because they don't want to burden others with their problems. I also realise that this repressing is unhealthy, but it's not like you guys can help it... or can you? After all, MBTI doesn't contain us in a box.
My real question though, is how you comfort the ESFP in that situation. Obviously, bringing up the matter in a logical manner does not work at all—been there, done that. Talking about emotions don't work—it just revolves around the same issue. I can't simply leave the room and let her cry by herself either, because I already know that she's crying and therefore the imaginary 'burden' is already on me. So what do I do?