I gotta figure out if this is an ESFP thing or an "I have a chain of unhealhty relationships" thing. That's not to say those two things aren't mutually exclusive though :) But no seriously, has anyone else had this problem? I understand the initial spark fading away if you haven't built any kind of deep attachment to someone. And routinely I'll admit, I get turned on by someone physically before I "fall in love" as it were. Sometimes well before. But it'll all be fine and dandy..
AS LONG AS WE DON'T HAVE SEX.
After sex? I've had an intense relationship with a girl before. We met online, moved up to texting, to long phone calls, to meeting, to spending time together. The connection I felt, it felt real. And it was exciting. Getting to know someone and learning more about them. Just the constant surprise and feeling dazzled by her. But after sex? It's like..where does it all go? It feels like suddenly once you have sex with someone you've, well, you've seen everything. Both literally and metaphorically. And there's no more surprise. Like "boom, okay. Sooo this is kinda the endgame for most relationships?". And the next thought is usually "k, bored now." I've been lucky so far that, well, I've never broken up with anyone just because of boredom. It's worked out well that usually something else will come up like a move or them losing interest. But the temptation to just walk out because of boredom is always there. And It depresses me because I wonder if I can ever get over this stupid hump and try to stay interested in someone.
I can stay friends. And it honestly feels better just being friends with people. The excitement is always there and you're never locked down. And I have friendships that have lasted far beyond five years. But relationships? With like actual dating? *plane crashing noise*. It doesn't matter HOW long sex is staved off or who I date. After sex I just suddenly lose interest. Which sucks cause, duh. Sex is awesome.
But having a relationship last more then 5 months would be nice too :(
Anyone know if this is just an immature stupid ESFP thing and have suggestions?