What is most important to you girls? Are you kinda looks conscious? I'm curious because.. here's the story.
I'm a guitarist/songwriter (ENFP) and last year tried to start a band with a female singer/bassist who is obviously ESFP. Much to my surprise one day she came on to me. We dated for about 4-5 months. Things were pretty good in a lot of ways. We can talk for hours, usually had a lot of fun, physically it was good except I'm the type that needs to know she's really in it for me to open up. We understand each other pretty well emotionally and care a lot. We did butt heads sometimes cause she'll say some things that came off as thoughtless and I get quiet and stubborn when that happens. Anyhow she ended it. Thought I was Ok with it. Anyhow months later I was in another band and that bassist was leaving and lo and behold the only one available was my ex.
So now we're best friends and musical partners. I'm still attracted to her and we spend a lot of time together. She seems to get it that I'm still interested but I kind of play it off. She'll ask how I feel and I'm not going to let myself get hurt. She's been seeing another guy and it's one of those on again off again not working things that she can't seem to let go of. So I'm like half a relationship and this guy is the other half (yeah the sexual half) She's made it pretty clear that she's not into me that way anymore but said maybe the feeling would come back.
Any ideas how to approach this or is it a lost cause? thanks..