[ESFP] Hey ESFP Women, What are you most Attracted to & ever date an ENFP?

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This is a discussion on Hey ESFP Women, What are you most Attracted to & ever date an ENFP? within the ESFP Forum - The Performers forums, part of the SP's Temperament Forum- The Creators category; What is most important to you girls? Are you kinda looks conscious? I'm curious because.. here's the story. I'm a ...

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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    Hey ESFP Women, What are you most Attracted to & ever date an ENFP?

    What is most important to you girls? Are you kinda looks conscious? I'm curious because.. here's the story.

    I'm a guitarist/songwriter (ENFP) and last year tried to start a band with a female singer/bassist who is obviously ESFP. Much to my surprise one day she came on to me. We dated for about 4-5 months. Things were pretty good in a lot of ways. We can talk for hours, usually had a lot of fun, physically it was good except I'm the type that needs to know she's really in it for me to open up. We understand each other pretty well emotionally and care a lot. We did butt heads sometimes cause she'll say some things that came off as thoughtless and I get quiet and stubborn when that happens. Anyhow she ended it. Thought I was Ok with it. Anyhow months later I was in another band and that bassist was leaving and lo and behold the only one available was my ex.

    So now we're best friends and musical partners. I'm still attracted to her and we spend a lot of time together. She seems to get it that I'm still interested but I kind of play it off. She'll ask how I feel and I'm not going to let myself get hurt. She's been seeing another guy and it's one of those on again off again not working things that she can't seem to let go of. So I'm like half a relationship and this guy is the other half (yeah the sexual half) She's made it pretty clear that she's not into me that way anymore but said maybe the feeling would come back.

    Any ideas how to approach this or is it a lost cause? thanks..



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    ESTP - The Doers

    Haha, I'm not gonna lie and say looks aren't important 'cause they are. I care a lot about looks and the guy has to be hot and well-dressed. However I wouldn't go for someone who's clearly a douchebag just 'cause he looks good. Also if I'm really into someone I might be able to lower my standards and go for him anyway.

    About the girl, I'd say forget about her and just be friends for a while. If she has something going on with another guy then it's better to not get involved at all. However if she's really through with him and she shows that she's really into you then perhaps you could try it again.

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    Unknown Personality

    Yeah if she says she's done, she's done. I've had that problem too where you just have to say something and if she is like me, that's it. Maybe later if she shows interest, but don't get your hopes up, as in anything it's never good to get your hopes up only to be let down.
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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    Yeah that's pretty much where I am with it. It's just kind of odd. We spend a LOT of time together. Sometimes almost every evening of the week. Either working on music or just hangin' in or going out. It's funny, at this point most of the folks around us think we're a couple though there's never any PDA or anything. LOL it's like a marriage without the sex.. uhh yeesh! Or is that more like a real marriage hehehe...OY been there, done that.
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    Quote Originally Posted by muzik_maker View Post
    Yeah that's pretty much where I am with it. It's just kind of odd. We spend a LOT of time together. Sometimes almost every evening of the week. Either working on music or just hangin' in or going out. It's funny, at this point most of the folks around us think we're a couple though there's never any PDA or anything. LOL it's like a marriage without the sex.. uhh yeesh! Or is that more like a real marriage hehehe...OY been there, done that.
    Yeah that would make it quite difficult for me as well. I think it sends a confusing message but if you're having to work together it might be different, though I've never had such experiences. So now you could say if someone asks, well, it's LIKE we're married lol.

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    This is hilarious.


     

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