This is a discussion on ESFPs are... within the ESFP Forum - The Performers forums, part of the SP's Temperament Forum- The Creators category; Originally Posted by Selene Whack. I've just started living with three of them. (Either that or ESTP, I don't know. ...
They are my social shields.
They chase the shiny, demand all the attention, and always know the best clubs.
On the flip side the drain is only bearable for a short before i have to climb into my bed and hide under the covers for a good 24 hours.
They annoy me. [observe personality type at left] Surprised? My polar opposite.
My older brother is one.
My grandmother is married to one.
My mother is divorced from one.
I hate all three. All of them have/ have had drug problems, are overly indulgent and lazy. Also, they are manipulative and use other people so that they don't have to pay for anything. None of them work.
I've had the urge to injure all of them more than once. It's just my older brother that I really see now. Thank god for small favors.
My best friend is an ESFP. So is an ex who is also one of my closest friends now.
They are both pretty damn awesome. Tho they can tend to really drain me, when I am around them they really know how to have fun. They wear their emotions on their sleeves, and they are a lot smarter then they are given credit for.
But they do have a tendecy to get bored with me, due to my introverted nature. But whatever, we have learned to deal with that stuff.
The only ESFP I know of is my little brother, and as we say in Cork, I absolutely love the bones of him he is funny, outspoken, honest, generous and caring, and I absolutely adore him. As such, my opinion of ESFPs in general may be very biased, but what the heck
He is very witty, and he says the things I often wish I had the brass balls to say. He brings me out of my shell when I need it and encourages me and gives me the confidence to not keep everything to myself, even though I still keep most things to myself...
You always know what he thinks of something. You can rely on him to tell you if you're doing something wrong or if you're bothering him. That said, he can be incredibly stubborn, and I find it hard to understand his confrontational streak sometimes. He meets an argument head-on whereas I tend to find anyway I can of diffusing or avoiding it.
I was in team with one this semester... most painful experience ever.
Man she would never shut up
I think it really doesn't help that they have the exact opposite personality of INTJ.
INTJs are so cute. ^_^
I will let you know why you cannot stand ESFPs. You live in your mind, plotting out possibilities and planning masterful strategies. You accept real life because it's unavoidable, but you'd just as soon not deal with people who you haven't accepted into your very limited inner circle. You are subtle and keep your keen observations to yourself unless it suits you to reveal them.
ESFPs, on the other hand, live out loud and in the moment. Life is an adventure meant to be lived, and the precious downtime of an INTJ is time wasted to an ESFP. Everything that crosses the ESFP mind is usually shared right away, not because they lack tact, but because they see no reason to keep it to themselves.
It bothers you that you're quiet loyalty isn't appreciated as much as the gregarious enthusiasm of the ESFP, even though ESFPs can have a fickle nature. They just live so much in the moment that their love, while true and pure and passionate one minute....is gone the next. You're more stable, but it's harder to see your feelings. Small expressions and statements to other types are HUGE proclamations to the INTJ. It bothers you that people expect you to smile and be as open and approachable as an ESFP.
Don't lose faith that you'll never meet an ESFP you could actually like. Maturity is a constricting garment that they have to wriggle into over a good long time. It's for the best if an ESFP holds off on a serious relationship and gets all the craziness out of their system....but still gets a mate who appreciates a little spontaneity
ESFPs? They need to slow down with their sarcasm, and also learn how to be less talkative and be a listener in a conversation! Otherwise, we have a problem.
I just met what I think is an ESFP, and I really enjoyed him! He is one of the funniest people I've ever met. It was just kind of hard to tell when he was telling the truth or not, since he constantly joked.
A weird thing that happened... things kind of got hot and heavy between us, and afterward he said he loved me (this was only our second meeting..). I realized it was in a platonic sense, and I didn't get creeped out because I often wish I could tell people I loved them without them taking it the wrong way. I love most people in a platonic sense, or in one way or another. But it makes me think that maybe he's an NF? Or am I right with SF? It was actually quite nice to hear since I usually feel like telling everyone I love them, but it was also very odd because that never happens!!