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This is a discussion on Tips on comforting ESFPs? within the ESFP Forum - The Performers forums, part of the SP's Temperament Forum- The Creators category; An ESFP crush of mine just broke up with her boyfriend, and I want to comfort her, is there any ...

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    INTP - The Thinkers

    Tips on comforting ESFPs?

    An ESFP crush of mine just broke up with her boyfriend, and I want to comfort her, is there any ways to do that specific or that are more useful for ESFPs, aside from being there for her. I also don't want to end up as the rebound either.



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    ESFP - The Performers

    Food helps. A lot. You may think I'm joking, but I'm definitely not.

    When I'm stressed or heartbroken, I tend to lock myself away from the world because I'm just exhausted. I think one of the best things you can do for a ESFP is understand that what she's going through is painful but that she needs to be distracted. Hold a bad movie night and eat buckets of ice cream. Go out and DO stuff so she's not sitting around bored or wallowing in her own misery. Just make her realize that she's got a ton of other things she can do that are worth more than pitying herself over a breakup.

    As for not being the rebound, do you not have feelings for her? We like to flirt, but if you make it clear you don't care for her in that way, she'll back off. If you do like her, then it's best to keep the flirting to a minimum. Our bullshit detectors can sense someone trying to take advantage of us, so wait on it until you think she's ready.

    Hope this helps.

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    INTP - The Thinkers

    I do have feelings for her, and I don't want to take advantage of her so don't flirt? Also when will I be able to tell that she's ok?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hruberen View Post
    I do have feelings for her, and I don't want to take advantage of her so don't flirt? Also when will I be able to tell that she's ok?
    As said, get out and do some fun things with her and get her mind off it. If you are concerned about her being happy again, then make it so. Don't comfort her just so when she's finally better again you can make a move on her. Make it clear that you're not trying to be the rebound, just let her know you want her to be happy. Maybe in time, she may take a liking to you, but no guarantees.

    She'll probably be okay after a while. One day at a time. Think of it like a kid learning to ride a bike; you'll help them get going and they'll be riding on their own after a time. If they fall, you can go over and pick them up again. Get the ESFP back on a positive mindset and if they sink back into a 'sadder' mindset, just be there to help them get out of it. The ESFPs I know are really positive people and are easy to please.

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    ENFP - The Inspirers


    Quote Originally Posted by Hruberen View Post
    I do have feelings for her, and I don't want to take advantage of her so don't flirt? Also when will I be able to tell that she's ok?
    if you comfort her and she ends up liking you sexually, that isn't taking advantage of her. you'll be able to tell she's okay when she returns to her happy, bubbly ESFP self




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    INTP - The Thinkers

    I'm pretty sure that if she's getting comfort from someone, it's probably one of her other of her friends, which doesn't really surprise me as we've hung out once at a mutual friend's house, and were going to hang out over winter break but I was too concerned with timing, that it never happened.

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    INTP - The Thinkers

    She and him got back together, looks like i'll have to wait...


     

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