I am an INFP female and dating an ESTJ man since about six months. He lives in another country (one hour with airplane away) and we text each other almost every day. We have really good conversations and we can talk about a lot together. We got known to each other because we were both working abroad at the same place and since I got home we text each other almost every day. I visited him already twice and both times we passed a really good time together. From our personalities we are very different, but there is some kind of connection between us and also feelings are there, from both sides.
He is 9 years older than me (I'm 20), and he has already had about six relationships, so that scares me somehow a bit...
Well, my question now :D: Although we have a lot of contact and always spend a great time together, he has never talked about being together, as in wanting me as a girlfriend. When I visit him we cook together, spend time together like a normal couple, but we never really spoke about how to define our kind of relation...so as all this is going on for quite a long time now, I would be interested what you think about it.
Does he already think we are in a relationship and there is no need to talk about it?
Or does he simply not want me as his girlfriend?
But why is he texting me every day then and inviting me to his place all the time?
As he has already had 6 relationships I can't blame this situation on his inability of having relationsships...
Of course I have already considered talking with him about that, but I know that this is not always the best idea with men...
I am very interested in your thoughts about this and a big thank you for your answers in advance! :)
(English is not my native language, so please bare with me :D)
Best regards :)