I have, for many years, been wondering about why I am the way I am. I have even contemplated changing my personality because all I see is my flaws and areas where I need improvement.
I have found that the things I always wondered why they were in me...there is actually a classification for it. I am now a professed ESTJ. ha ha ha. I was told by my best friend and brother in law to take a personality test and see what I am. I searched online and discovered that ALL of the descriptions where not just accurate, but freakishly accurate. Upon discovering this, I have decided that before any major personality changes where I take how I am and try to shift it and make myself more "manageable" for those who would consider me a bit blunt...I would come and share with those who are like me. Yay!
So, to break the ice, the biggest struggle I have had with my personality has been that I am seen as overly aggressive and almost calloused in how I address issues. When I in normal conversation bring up things or view points on different subjects, the quickness of my response and the cutness of my comments with the mixture of my tone makes me out to not just "step on peoples toes" like it has been described, but I take their feet and cut them off. Anyone else struggle with something like this and how have you dealt with it?
I have found it to be very difficult in growing in relationships with people because I am always desiring to be in control or come off that way totally subconsciously.
How do you balance being a guardian yet also not being a jerk all the time? lol Just to be very blunt since that's what I'm good at.