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This is a discussion on ESTJ and INTJ Dating within the ESTJ Forum - The Guardians forums, part of the SJ's Temperament Forum- The Overseers category; So... Recently been talking with this girl a few years older than me... And I'm into her a good bit... ...

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    ESTJ and INTJ Dating

    So... Recently been talking with this girl a few years older than me...

    And I'm into her a good bit... we done lots of talking on the phone and hanging out a good bit...
    Its been going on now for 3 months...

    And I'm more of the curious type... and I have been trying to understand her more...
    She was so proactive on this that she actually brought over a book on personality types and such... which shows me she wants me to understand her also... so all this personality types are new to me...

    Ok... I know the obvious that INTJ are not expressive in their emotions and I know my type wants to change that... so is there a happy medium?

    We talked about becoming official but she is holding back. She says that her gut (intuition) says no because she thinks I am more emotional attached that her and that she feels responsible for me... but her heart and mind say to go for it... {that is what I was able to get out of her the other night}
    could this just be her over thinking on the natural difference of expressing emotions the INTJ and ESTJ have to deal with?

    What advice and tips... do you guys/girls have on how to handle this? and prepare for?



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    ESTJ - The Guardians

    Chemistry between INTJs and ESTJs - INTJ Forum


    Good luck! :)





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    I was married to one ESTJ and dated another.

    I love their drive and passion to get things done. I love the order. However, it seems to me their depth and interest goes into more hands on things where mine are all trapped in my head.....and wanting to be discussed.

    Dont get me wrong, I enjoy this type a lot......I have had a lot of fun and good memories with both of them.

    Where we clash:
    sex.....both of them seem to have the madonna/whore syndrome with my being the madonna sooooo...yeah, so the fact that I have a high sex drive and am very picky about who I am with makes it very difficult to want be with someone like this.

    language..both of them always say I answer questions with questions.... ???

    decisions, they want to make them NOW... where I want to look at the whole picture.

    I will tell you however, if you want to get a project done.....we were an awesome combo...very productive!
    Last edited by Briggs; 08-27-2009 at 07:52 AM.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MyLittleBlackHeart View Post
    I was married to one ESTJ and dated another.



    Where we clash:
    sex.....both of them seem to have the madonna/whore syndrome with my being the madonna sooooo...yeah, so the fact that I have a high sex drive and am very picky about who I am with makes it very difficult to want be with someone like this.

    language..both of them always say I answer questions with questions.... ???

    decisions, they want to make them NOW... where I want to look at the whole picture.

    I will tell you however, if you want to get a project done.....we were an awesome combo...very productive!
    I'm lost the Madonna/whore syndrome?

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    Quote Originally Posted by tottitotti View Post
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    Is that a statement or a question?
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    I'm guessing that means he doesn't feel like reading it maybe. I speak from my inner estj.
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    ESTJ - The Guardians

    Both of my best girlfriends are INTJ's and i get alone super well with them and we have a lot in common. But I agree there are some differences in the S vs. N that make it very difficult. Not to mention I care about people in a different way then they do. One of these girls has actually been my roommate for 4 years. She's really easy to live with and talk to for the most part. But actually she has been dating a ESTJ for 5 years and they're pretty much going to get married in the future. They get into quite a few disagreements, but they're good for each other and make each other laugh. He actually kind of softens her up too, which is funny to see. So I would say that the two can definitely work, just both have to be willing to accept that there are differences that cant change that easily. So I would definitely give it a try!
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