This is a discussion on How do you process life grief within the ESTP Forum - The Doers forums, part of the SP's Temperament Forum- The Creators category; Originally Posted by DrJRM731 That’s a great question. The answer for me is, very badly. I avoid like crazy and ...
I never really stew on things, I don't believe it to be useful to wallow in any bad emotion or situation outside of my control. I believe in moving ever forward and learning from any grief life may throw at me. In my darker period I found myself in a truly unhappy relationship of 5 years, and used alcohol as a means to fast forward each day so I wouldn't have to bother with it. This is further to the point that I constantly seek to move forward, that was just a really bad method of doing it.
I've been out of that relationship for about 3 months now, and my life is significantly improved. I've moved into a house with a badass roommate, got my drinking back down to social/casual, and picked up a stellar FWB. Perhaps ESTPs just have a hard time dealing with life grief and seek to outrun it, or focus on something a bit simpler and less messy.
She was avoiding talking about the future, which was incredibly uncharacteristic of her. So I just went direct and said "what, are you planning on breaking up soon?", and she said yeah. Personally, I was gonna do it after our lease was up, but it came out earlier. Super amicable, just outgrew each other.
Could be an ST thing, could be a competency thing (135), or even a ping of a type 7 in you. Plenty of possibilities.
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