The big question IMO is if you meant to hurt other people. For the most part, the worst is when I have gone off on somebody, and they really weren't interested in hurting or insulting me, but I could have swore they were. We have such strong Se that when we see a look or facial expression we swear we know what others are thinking, and many times we do, and we are dead wrong. Just the other day, somebody asked me why I looked so angry, and I said I wasn't angry, I was just quiet because I was fatigued from being on a diet.
I think ESTP sins are always the ones that society frowns the most on because we don't defend ourselves well: problems with self-discipline and authority, insensitivity, stubbornly holding to truth while others go unscathed. INFJ sins are inaction, complete lack of realism, and when in grip mode, being selfish and Hitler like demanding. Still, because they can complete shift shape into any group because of their empathy, society forgives their sins. We tend to fight back when we are right, and groups and leaders of the group want to pummel us because of that.