Barring complete incompatibility and probably you usually choose people there's sexual chemistry with, have you ever had bad sex? I think Se (from my perspective as INFP) is this hyper-focusing ability that probably is really conducive to having great sex.
The reason I wonder this is because as INFP even though sexual compatibility is one of my top musts, I usually want emotional connectedness to be able to shut my brain off and engage fully. I recently had an experience with an ESTP where tbh I didn't know what I was going to expect and had no emotional connection, but by golly it was hours of no thoughts and pure carnal sweetness.
second reason is because sexual compatibility is really high on my list for long term commitment too, if i can learn to be more like Se then I can have great sex with anybody?