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Fallin in love too easily?

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#1 ·
I have experienced this way too many times with a variety of girls I have been with. Maybe it's infatuation. Hopefully it's just infatuation, because I'm just too young to know what love is. I have strong feelings for the girls I have been with and I am very intense with my feelings towards them especially if they reciprocate. Does any other ESTP experience this? What do you say on this matter?
 
#2 ·
I fell in love once, my husband. I've experienced intense lust many, many, many times. :tongue:
 
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That's because you are not ESTP. You're an ESFP.

To answer your question, no. I never develop strong feelings for a girl until I get to know her a lot personally and have spent a lot of time together. It would be unwise and stupid to fall at the instance you see her.

One of my close friends is an ESFP and you are exactly like him.
 
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Well we can't always attribute that I fall in love too easily to mean I'm ESFP. Hm, but now that you mention it, the girls I do meet for a brief sort of time (at least the ones that catch my interest) I feel like I need to get to know them more and play my game right. I don't believe I can get any girl, I just believe that if I play my cards right, I know I can get any girl.

So you're also saying I'm aux Fi than Ti? I don't believe so. But it might explain the quick-love thing. hmmmmm
 
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3 Ways to Know the Difference Between Love, Infatuation and Lust (incidentally the photos look uncomfortably contrived)

I may be wrong, but theoretically
you'd have a set criteria for things that fall under the "like" category, so maybe all of the different girls you met happened to tick enough boxes. (e.g. reciprocated feelings might be one.)

Or maybe you're in love with the idea of love, in a way-too-many-people will do sense, so as long as you can project certain feelings the void is filled, tada!
 
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I would say it's a rare trait for ESTPs to truly fall in love often. I might fancy a few guys in close succession but I have only fell in love once and to be quite frank I'd really rather never do it again!

I have a terrible habit to think of my partners as objects (although I don't treat them like this so bluntly, I am too 'crafty' ).This makes me sound like a horrible person, but it's not done so conciously or viciously. By this I mean I am thinking about all the things in which I know how to please them, all the things I do which I know would not please them and always ensure I am being the 'perfect partner to suit them' in order for the relationship to be happy. I guess this is why my partners always feel 'swept off their feet'.

This doesn't sound too bad but I dunno, I catch myself sometimes and I feel wrong. I feel like I know exactly what to do to make it work. It's like I have the upper hand all the time, I feel myself swaying the conversation whichever course I like. So I just do this untill I get bored. For some reason even guys I really like and get along with fantastically, I always end up bored some way or another. I cannot force a spark and there is always something that irritates me about my partner, be it as stupid as the way their expression looks when drunk or how the way they always phrase things. These things are usually just trivial but it annoys me that they annoy me!!

This all comes down to my domineering Se and Ti, so if you don't relate to this @jetplane48 you may want to think about your dominant functions more carefully.

And if anyone has any tips or relate to my experiences, that'd be good.
 
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