(sorry for bad spelling; I'm in tears)
Dont really know what to say, except... I'm hurting right now.
Posting this in both ENFP , ESTP and INFP forums as I'm sorta both ENFP/INFP, depending on... Idontknow. I'd like to know all opinions.
Any words of wisdom, experience, or simply knowledge about types will help - esp when it comes to fights.
I just found out I'm gluten-intolerant, so I cant even eat the ice cream I want.
Just at a time in my life that so much is happening, he's not there. And then he complains that I am always negative when we talk, and it's like... well then dont wait for ME to call all the fricking time.
Sorry if none of this makes sense. Just want to understand "us" from a type-persepective. I dont understand how someone can hang up on me repeatedly, simply because they think I'm lying (I wasnt but explained myself badly, clearly). I thought hanging up is what you do when someone cheats on you. I dont understand how he can walk off and just ignore me when I'm PLEADING and practically losing it as he rejects every Skype call (I'm abroad on a trip) and switches his phone off.
Isn't it childish to hang up on someone? What are GOOD reasons to do so?
An excerpt, for those who care to read :( DISCLAIMER : You dont need to read to respond. Also, to those who DO read - imagine that I'd done everything wrong in the relationship - is the treatment below ok then? If so, I'll stay. I've been a horrible gf - and I know he reacts cos of that, but he had already given me an emotional beating before this, and then when i said somthing he thought was a lie, he flipped):
6/23/11 1:16:12 AM] Zubi: do u not understand how painful it is when ur telling the truth
[6/23/11 1:16:16 AM] Zubi: and someones callin u names
[6/23/11 1:16:19 AM] Zubi: hurting u
[6/23/11 1:16:20 AM] Zubi: judging u
[6/23/11 1:16:25 AM] Zubi: n ur begging them
[6/23/11 1:16:26 AM] Vegito: learn what judging means
[6/23/11 1:16:30 AM] Vegito: if a girl sucks a million dicks
[6/23/11 1:16:33 AM] Vegito: and people call her a whore
[6/23/11 1:16:37 AM] Vegito: thats not exactly judging
[6/23/11 1:16:50 AM] Zubi: so cos the reasons werent good enough for u
[6/23/11 1:16:52 AM] Zubi: i was lying
[6/23/11 1:16:55 AM] Zubi: thats judging jason
[6/23/11 1:17:01 AM] Vegito: no because you were LYING
[6/23/11 1:17:02 AM] Vegito: it was a lie
[6/23/11 1:17:14 AM] Zubi: it wasnt!
[6/23/11 1:17:29 AM] Zubi: its not fair that the only way ul listen and be nice to me is if i give up telling the truth
[6/23/11 1:17:33 AM] Zubi: and lie to u that ur right
[6/23/11 1:17:36 AM] Zubi: and that i was lying
[6/23/11 1:17:39 AM] Zubi: thats SO UNFAIR
[6/23/11 1:18:10 AM] Vegito: so you said "i decided not to torture myself" because it had to do with what we were talking about before i said brb restroom
[6/23/11 1:18:13 AM] Zubi: i feel like i have to cut WHO I AM to make u happy. you dont want to accept the truth as truth - THATS UNFAIR.
[6/23/11 1:18:15 AM] Vegito: and NOT because i said brb restroom
[6/23/11 1:18:16 AM] Zubi: YES!!!
[6/23/11 1:18:17 AM] Vegito: that makles
[6/23/11 1:18:18 AM] Vegito: NO
[6/23/11 1:18:19 AM] Zubi: it was
[6/23/11 1:18:20 AM] Vegito: SENSE
[6/23/11 1:18:20 AM] Zubi: BOTH
[6/23/11 1:18:20 AM] Vegito: FUCKING
[6/23/11 1:18:22 AM] Vegito: NO
[6/23/11 1:18:23 AM] Vegito: SENSE
[6/23/11 1:18:35 AM] Vegito: thats like saying i went to the baseball game to stub my toe
[6/23/11 1:18:40 AM] Zubi: im sorry it doesnt make sense to u :( i dnt know how it doesnt :(
[6/23/11 1:18:46 AM] Zubi: stop the mtaphors
[6/23/11 1:18:49 AM] Vegito: no it doesn't make sense in ENGLISH
[6/23/11 1:18:52 AM] Zubi: tlk about THIS issue
[6/23/11 1:18:56 AM] Vegito: or any fucking language
[6/23/11 1:18:58 AM] Zubi: yes it does
[6/23/11 1:19:01 AM] Zubi: if ud hear me out
[6/23/11 1:19:02 AM] Vegito: no it doesn't
[6/23/11 1:19:11 AM] Vegito: its as nonsensical as saying the baseball metaphor
[6/23/11 1:19:27 AM] Zubi: and not treat me so badly by hanging up :( ud have realised that ur being unnecessarily hurtful when im INNOCENT right now. this is so unfair!!
[6/23/11 1:20:11 AM] Zubi: u make a quick judgment and REFUSE TO HEAR ANYTHING i want to say to explain how ur wrong. if u are conifdent that ur right, why are u running away from a conversation.
[6/23/11 1:20:22 AM] Zubi: :( is it that u just WANT to think badly of me :(
[6/23/11 1:20:30 AM] Vegito: no thats whats funny
[6/23/11 1:20:33 AM] Vegito: i HEARD you out
[6/23/11 1:20:33 AM] Zubi: cos right now ur FORCING me into admitting something thats FALSE
[6/23/11 1:20:36 AM] Vegito: and what you said
[6/23/11 1:20:39 AM] Vegito: was dribble
[6/23/11 1:20:40 AM] Vegito: and bullshit
[6/23/11 1:20:40 AM] Zubi: in order for me to get u to be nice to me
[6/23/11 1:20:46 AM] Vegito: THEN i hung up when you decided to stick by it
[6/23/11 1:20:51 AM] Vegito: so you can stop making up your bullshit lies
[6/23/11 1:20:53 AM] Zubi: exactly
[6/23/11 1:20:57 AM] Vegito: but thats all melissa fucking does
[6/23/11 1:20:58 AM] Vegito: is lie
[6/23/11 1:21:00 AM] Vegito: then defend it
[6/23/11 1:21:02 AM] Vegito: im going to sleep
[6/23/11 1:21:02 AM] Zubi: why didnt u think - hey! what if they arene lies?
[6/23/11 1:21:04 AM] Vegito: lie to someone else
[6/23/11 1:21:08 AM] Zubi: im not lying!!
[6/23/11 1:21:09 AM] Zubi: pls!!
[6/23/11 1:21:10 AM] Vegito: i dont care if you feel less close to me right now
[6/23/11 1:21:13 AM] Vegito: im going to sleep
[6/23/11 1:21:16 AM] Zubi: pls dont go
[6/23/11 1:21:19 AM] Zubi: il do anything
[6/23/11 1:21:19 AM] Vegito: im going
[6/23/11 1:21:21 AM] Zubi: il lie
[6/23/11 1:21:22 AM] Vegito: no
[6/23/11 1:21:22 AM] Vegito: you lost your chance
[6/23/11 1:21:24 AM] Zubi: and "admit"
[6/23/11 1:21:24 AM] Vegito: you wont
[6/23/11 1:21:25 AM] Zubi: pls
[6/23/11 1:21:26 AM] Vegito: see
[6/23/11 1:21:27 AM] Vegito: right there
[6/23/11 1:21:29 AM] Zubi: pls
[6/23/11 1:21:31 AM] Zubi: il do anything
[6/23/11 1:21:31 AM] Vegito: you already cant do it
[6/23/11 1:21:33 AM] Vegito: so you lied about that too
[6/23/11 1:21:35 AM] Zubi: no matter how degrading
[6/23/11 1:21:36 AM] Zubi: pls
[6/23/11 1:21:37 AM] Vegito: chronic lair much
[6/23/11 1:21:45 AM] Zubi: lied abt what :(
[6/23/11 1:21:56 AM] Zubi: lied abt what
[6/23/11 1:22:01 AM] Zubi: jason!
[6/23/11 1:22:02 AM] Vegito: okay you'll do anything?
[6/23/11 1:22:04 AM] Vegito: stop talkign to me
[6/23/11 1:22:04 AM] Zubi: pls dont
[6/23/11 1:22:06 AM] Zubi: yes!
[6/23/11 1:22:09 AM] Vegito: simple
[6/23/11 1:22:16 AM] Zubi: no il do anything for u to make up with me NOW!
[6/23/11 1:22:23 AM] Vegito: you lie too much
[6/23/11 1:22:23 AM] Vegito: but i dont care to
[6/23/11 1:22:31 AM] Zubi: but im not lying
[6/23/11 1:22:33 AM] Zubi: pls believe me
[6/23/11 1:22:34 AM] Vegito: and dont give a rats ass about anyone but yourself
[6/23/11 1:22:37 AM] Zubi: i swear on everything
[6/23/11 1:22:41 AM] Zubi: on our entire relationship
[6/23/11 1:22:43 AM] Zubi: im not lying
[6/23/11 1:22:46 AM] Vegito: thats pathetic
[6/23/11 1:22:58 AM] Zubi: its so hard for me. iv said tonnes of sorrys and elaborated
[6/23/11 1:23:03 AM] Zubi: i got one line of sorry
[6/23/11 1:23:11 AM] Zubi: iv been giving and giving this arhument
[6/23/11 1:23:16 AM] Vegito: shut up
[6/23/11 1:23:18 AM] Vegito: about whatever the fuck
[6/23/11 1:23:20 AM] Zubi: and now im being called al iar when im not LYING
[6/23/11 1:23:27 AM] Vegito: you're going on about right now
[6/23/11 1:23:32 AM] Vegito: and stick to the fact that you're a goddamn liar
[6/23/11 1:23:32 AM] Zubi: pls let me call u
[6/23/11 1:23:34 AM] Vegito: no
[6/23/11 1:23:36 AM] Vegito: absolutely no
[6/23/11 1:23:38 AM] Zubi: stop treating me so badly
[6/23/11 1:23:42 AM] Vegito: stop acting so badly
[6/23/11 1:23:45 AM] Zubi: theres no excuse for how ur treating me
[6/23/11 1:23:54 AM] Zubi: if its cos u think im a lair
[6/23/11 1:23:55 AM] Vegito: and theres no excuse for you to continually lie to my face
[6/23/11 1:23:58 AM] Vegito: you want this to stop?
[6/23/11 1:24:02 AM] Vegito: stop talking to me
[6/23/11 1:24:05 AM] Zubi: then u shudnt date me. u cant sit on the fence!
[6/23/11 1:24:07 AM] Zubi: i cant!
[6/23/11 1:24:07 AM] Vegito: i know you're a liar
[6/23/11 1:24:09 AM] Vegito: you lie constantly
[6/23/11 1:24:12 AM] Vegito: then tell me later
[6/23/11 1:24:15 AM] Vegito: and tell me not to judge you
[6/23/11 1:24:22 AM] Zubi: constantly
[6/23/11 1:24:23 AM] Vegito: you're a goddamn liar
[6/23/11 1:24:35 AM] Zubi: or tell u random lies
[6/23/11 1:24:40 AM] Zubi: n then admit them
[6/23/11 1:24:57 AM] Zubi: how can u be so cruel
and then he hung up...