This is a discussion on How different personality types let go of someone not worth their effort within the General Chat forums, part of the The Cafe Lounge category; Originally Posted by Allersky Everyone's giving similar stories. I think it's safe to assume it's not type-related. Like most others ...
But if i have decided to leave nah i dont think it matters what they do to show they care. I would have already made an image based on past interactions to see if they care or not. I wont judge that by their last reaction - i know they ll be more emotional then if they cared before.
If they didnt care then its likely i would have left sooner because of that.
I'm too forgiving. However on the flip side... I can hold grudges, or.. its hard to forget things that has happened to me.
I usually forgive people for a couple or few flaws in their personality or beliefs etc if I really like them (friend, family, lover etc.) But if its life threatening to me or others and you tick too many boxes on my shit list then... I kind of just... avoid you to the best of my ability. But if I have to be in contact with you I'll still be polite, but there will be nothing beyond that, and I probably won't care if I didn't say bye before leaving the building.
But there are a few traits in people that always put me off especially if they're flaunting it, ie: arrogance, some type of predator.
PS. I do initiate contact with my friends at times, but when I don't.... don't expect to hear from me until like 6 months later. If I think a friendship isn't going to work or progress any further I just kind of slowly disappear, or just cut people off all of a sudden. Depends? Sometimes I don't talk to somebody for a while too, if I'm trying to figure out where we stand in our relationship, because I don't want to bother them in the meantime, if I mean so little to them.
I still have people on my facebook who I've met once or twice but don't even really talk to them. But maybe that's just Facebook...
My old work colleagues. We became close, and good friends, and it seems we're drifting apart now, but I still consider them my close friends because of our previous interactions.... but refer to the 6 month thing above lol. I just can't be bothered talking to people sometimes. Hard for me to focus my attention on more than one or two people at a time. Same with my hobbies etc. So if I've been talking to somebody new and we click, then they're my current buddy, my other friends are still my close friends, but its like, I'm too busy talking to my new friend.... I don't know. Its like when you have obsessions and you keep jumping back and forth between them.
Last edited by Eren Jaegerbomb; 04-07-2019 at 08:28 AM.