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    What event or events contributed to your personality?

    I am a great believer in the phrase "Our past is what makes us." So what contributed to your current personality?



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    I have always been an INFP, since my earliest memory. My first words came from the recognition of having feelings and were simultaneously a statement of self-awareness.

    "Love you," I said, when I first understood that there was a label for the pleasant glow I experienced when my parents hugged me. I remember being interested in drawing as soon as I could hold a crayon. I learned to read and write before pre-school, and was already writing in cursive before the other children knew their letter sounds, not because I had to, but because it seemed pretty and expressed the flow of my feelings better, visually representing something personal and intangible. Those who say that all children develop these personality traits at later stages never met me.




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    Quote Originally Posted by Lance View Post
    I am a great believer in the phrase "Our past is what makes us." So what contributed to your current personality?
    I think this is a bit of a complicated question to ask of anyone. Therefore I shall delve into it.

    Introversion is perhaps the most fixed of my preferences. I was a quiet baby, I wasn't raised with brothers or sisters, I didn't have many friends (I actually didn't mind wandering around the playground alone and went one year without friends), I was always reserved. My parents and most of my friends are introverts, so my introversion has always been accepted by those I value most. Hence, I've always been an introvert, and I don't (can't) imagine I'll be any other way.

    Intuiting has probably always been there. I was fascinated by Egyptology, paleontology, ancient Greek mythology, crystal structures, and the periodic table in elementary school. I've always loved theoretical knowledge and philosophizing. However, through the influence of my parents, I have a fair amount of sensor characteristics. I can get along with sensors, so long as they aren't J types, and I do like doing things with my hands.

    Thinking is where I start to call my personality into question. I was an extremely sensitive child, crushed by the slightest hint of disapproval from my parents. That sensitivity is still easily brought out in Mom's presence. As the years passed, I had to learn to be less sensitive the hard way. Thinking is my preference now because I don't care for emotional arguments or sentimentality (never did care for sentimentality, oddly enough), though I have a soft heart at times. I also try to be tactful with others, but because I figure that if someone else is preoccupied with how I said something, the message I was trying to get across will get lost in the fuss over delivery. I figure that tact is a good precaution in trying to get my point across, regardless of whom I'm talking to. Then again, I don't always detect when something I say is tactless.

    Perceiving is moderately expressed. Again, I suspect my parents' influence, particularly Mom. I remember procrastinating as early as kindergarten.
    However, college has taught me to lessen my procrastination. As for jumping from one project to another...well, my advisor will complain that I'm too undisciplined. He still reminds me to keep focused, don't start jumping around, stick to one topic. Just today, he handed me my assignment, and I asked a question about sixth degree polynomials, though I'm supposed to be working on fifth. I stated that it was just curiosity, but he still said, "Now, don't get carried away, you have to start working on the fifth-degree before looking to the sixth!" I don't think he trusts me.

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    Even within the confines of type, our past and present contribute greatly to our personality. I don't define myself by my type, but I do understand my way of thinking and behaving as well as how it compares to others better through that particular lens.

    In any case, to answer your question Lance, the majority of what contributed to my current 'persona' began at adolescence.

    When I was about 10, we left California where I had been living up until that point to move east. We ended up in North Texas, where I met the people who are now my oldest friends. My father married a horrible shrew of a woman who had no qualms about more or less hating us and she drove me pretty far into my introverted shell. Everything since has been about getting over it and a handful of other things.

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    What I wonder is if something could contribute significantly to our personality without awareness of it. How great would the influence have to be before we would be aware of it? Also, is there a tendency to overemphasize "major" events in attributing personality to past experience? I think personality also works something like habit. The practice of certain tendencies becomes slightly more ingrained into our minds as we practice it more often. It becomes difficult to imagine other perspectives, unless that is our habit as well. How do cultural environments contribute to personality? Would I have been different if I'd been raised in Korea? Texas? How much so? Would language have any effect (as ridiculous as that may sound)? What are the things that contribute to personality that we take for granted?

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    Quote Originally Posted by nightriser13 View Post
    What I wonder is if something could contribute significantly to our personality without awareness of it. How great would the influence have to be before we would be aware of it?
    That would depend primarily on the person. Some people, and types for that matter, are far more introspective than others. Even so, it often takes a lot of time and meticulous effort to find the sources of patterns that develop over the course of years.

    Also, is there a tendency to overemphasize "major" events in attributing personality to past experience?
    I think there's more of a tendency to under-emphasize. Most people refuse to take a good hard look at themselves for various reasons. I don't see the past as an excuse for current behavior, but at the same time, it becomes more understandable.

    I think personality also works something like habit. The practice of certain tendencies becomes slightly more ingrained into our minds as we practice it more often. It becomes difficult to imagine other perspectives, unless that is our habit as well.
    I'd say that's simply human nature. People are creatures of habit and what helped them survive childhood often becomes the overriding pattern later in life.

    How do cultural environments contribute to personality? Would I have been different if I'd been raised in Korea? Texas? How much so? Would language have any effect (as ridiculous as that may sound)? What are the things that contribute to personality that we take for granted?
    It's impossible to answer this question without being able to go back and follow other paths to see where they lead. Have you read The Unbearable Lightness of Being?

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    I don't know what really contributed to my personality. I always have been an INFP. I guess it's a hard question to answer, maybe I'm just not thinking hard enough. I can't really think of anything life-changing in my life that changed my personality.

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    I was pretty much left to myself as a kid. By my own choice. And its in my nature to be alone, reflect/dwell on things/thoughts, I've always been skeptical, comes from a family that discusses things openly (my parents are I/ENFJ and ENTJ/P, my sister esfj) sometimes to the point that annoyed my sister.

    There must be more thats made the way I am of course. But I think my parents openness and because they had their work cut out with my sister made me who I am.

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    I was a pretty unhappy kid for reasons I won't get into.

    Since being a kid many strange, wonderful, terrifying, and sad things have happened that ultimately have just made me love life even more.

    I learned a great deal about the power of the mind and self-talk and convinced myself I was awesome. Which I most certainly am! (Affirm desired beliefs were possible) Seriously, I'm very nice. I talk too much, but oh well. I am honest and forthright, I am in love with everybody's capacity to love, etc, etc. I like to think of myself as a bit of a diamond from the rough now :P

    My empathy has surely been further developed out of my experiences, and I have made drastic changes in my thinking (I was hardcore negative for too many years). I think I am happier than most people I know, and I am a HUGE promoter of Peace and looking beneath the surface of everything! Just in case you didn't know... :P

    I'm sure the events on my life have played a huge role in developing my personality. I am still easily hurt, but I feel that it's essential to who I am in my peace loving ways. Of course I was also born with a core that was all me, baby! I wouldn't change anything about me now except for more self-esteem/confidence and follow through.

    What was the question again?

    In answer to your question, essentially you are you. Events happen that shape you, but how you react and grow is probably a result of who you already essentially were. I think repressed traits probably eventually come out in adulthood.

    Just my perspective. I'm sure they'll be some scientists/thinkers/whatevers explaining it in far more logical, clear cut ways than me. But hey, I want to play too.

    Hope you enjoyed my journey toward awesomeness (And I am! (awesome I mean (affirm where possible)))

    Sorry for the literacy crimes splash dashed about... I'm soooooooooooooo tired. 3am???! Dear lord.... G'nite.
    Last edited by TheHappyMinority; 11-11-2008 at 09:53 AM.

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    I think every little events in our life contribute to our personality
    so I can't really mention all of them one by one,, but here's the big three

    1. when my mom change her visit schedule from once in a week to once in two weeks. i think i was 4.. i think it contribute my Introvert side. from that time i don't really like talking about my feelings and i what i really want to anyone..
    2. when my grandmother introduce me to Jesus.. i think it contribute a lot to my personality until now
    3. when i was first met my dad.. it reduce my Introvert side a little bit I guess


     
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