Confused INFJ - any words of wisdom?

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    Confused INFJ - any words of wisdom?

    Hi everyone

    Until recently, I didn’t know anything about personality types or tests. I had always felt like I was crazy and questioned whether or not I would ever truly feel happy in myself.

    When I discovered I was an INFJ and read about it, I felt validated for the first time in my life. And then I proceeded to read everything I could find about INFJ’s to see if I could find answers to all the questions that are constantly swirling in my head.

    I feel really confused about my place and purpose in the world. I have spent the last seven years working in Administration in Finance and Accounting, and towards the end I literally felt like my soul was dying. I finally piked up the courage to leave my job in determination of doing something that truly resonates with me.
    Sometimes I feel like I can’t differentiate the voice of my ego between the voice of my spirit, and I am terrified of making a mistake so instead I end up doing nothing but existing inside my mental madness.

    Does anyone else feel this way?

    I don’t want to sound ungrateful as I have so many wonderful things in my life, but the career side of things is a missing element. The way I see it, a career is (or should be) an extension of myself so I want it to be meaningful, something that I believe in.

    Any words of wisdom would be appreciated 



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    I feel as thought i can certainly relate. I always felt like an alien and until recently thought I was INTJ, which made little sense in hindsight. Since I discovered I was INFJ i've read everything under the sun and suddenly feel I understand myself so much better. The imaginary world makes so much sense now!

    I am doing a Philosophy degree and cannot wait to graduate. I hate academia. I come from a family who all went to Cambridge and I always felt academia was the route I had to take! About a year ago I spoke to a friend I knew through various volunteering things i had done over the years and he told me to work out what I wanted in life by the way I spent my time. I had a think and realised that I spent as little time as possible doing my degree and as much time as I could attending my volunteer post where I work with suicidal people. I then decided that I was sick of pushing on with a route I hated and decided whe I finished my degree to go into working with people... currently applying I am so excited. It took so many years to realise this this because I was never confident enough to be my own person.

    I don't know how helpful this will be but first give yourself a break. It is hard to make life changing decisions.
    Second, what makes you happy?
    As an INFJ you have the drive and the nice personality to get to where you want to be if you try it.
    The biggest INFJ issue I face is getting too stuck in my own head watching the rest of the world 'succeed' - get out there and make your own life :)

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    @hallieisabella

    The biggest INFJ issue I face is getting too stuck in my own head watching the rest of the world 'succeed'
    Me too!

    I’m glad that you have decided to take a path that you are passionate about. It’s so nice that you volunteer your time to help suicidal people, that is a fantastic cause and also something that it close to my heart.

    Over the past few weeks I have realised that I spend a lot of my time analysing thoughts, reading about self-development and am fascinated by positive psychology and self-development. Maybe that could be a potential path for me?

    I think I had put myself in a box for so long, thinking that I had to be a certain something, but I think I just thought that because I had told myself that for so long!

    I have been doing a lot of soul searching over the past couple of months, and I think I am finally getting some clarity 

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    I am the same! I read a lot about personal development and I'm starting to think it is in our INFJ nature! Do you like working with people? My passion all my life has been talking to my friends about their problems! I am a problem solver by nature and I can often see where others are going wrong long before they can. That is what is drawing me to social work, particularly mental health social work.

    I can totally relate about the box thing! Going to uni and escaping my ridiculously academic family what what I needed to get out of my box! :)
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    Sounds like Social Work is perfectly suited to you :)

    I like to help people in an everyday kind of context, I have deep empathy for others, but I’m not sure if I could work in a counselling situation. I feel like I could get sucked down a hole quite easily, so maybe it’s a defence mechanism.

    Right now I am really curious about development psychology, it amazes me. The downside is that it entails a lot of study and I find the thought of a long term commitment to an educational institution quite daunting. Maybe I would enjoy it though, if it’s a topic of interest.

    Do you need to study to do social work?
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    Thanks :) I hope so.

    Development psychology sounds interesting - do you know what you need to do to get into that route? I relate over the education thing! I need to finish my final year of my degree and then I would have to do a 2 year masters in social work (which i've just applied for) and then to get to my final career goal i'd need to do a further 1-2 years at some point to become a mental health professional... daunting! Anything is possible though :)

    I feel the same way about couselling. Although I do work with suicidal people I definitely don't want to be a counsellor!

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    Yes, it's a huge commitment to study! Atleast Social work and Psychology are quite broad markets, so we have that on our side :-)

    To do Developmental Psychology I think it's a three year Bachelors degree + 1 year honours + Masters / provisional work.

    What does your work with suicidal people involve? I have lost 2 friends to suicide, and found myself in a really dark place about 8 years ago, so I have a real soft spot for that type of suffering. I would love to help people like that, and I really admire people like yourself who take the time to care for others. You just never know if you could be the one that saves someone's life.

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    Dont know if this will be of any interest or help, but this came to mind when I read the OP:
    Remember how long you have procrastinated, and how consistently you have failed to put to good use your suspended sentence... Your days are numbered. Use them to throw open the windows of your soul to the sun. If you do not, the sun will soon set, and you with it.
    ~
    If you pursue the matter at hand along the straight path of reason, advancing with intensity, vigor, and grace, and without being distracted along the way; if you keep your divine spirit pure and blameless, as though this were the moment to give it back; if expecting nothing and fearing nothing, you are content to act in accord with nature and to speak with heroic honesty—then you will live well. And no power on earth can stop you.

    - Marcus Aurelius

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    Quote Originally Posted by Afterburner View Post
    Dont know if this will be of any interest or help, but this came to mind when I read the OP:
    Remember how long you have procrastinated, and how consistently you have failed to put to good use your suspended sentence... Your days are numbered. Use them to throw open the windows of your soul to the sun. If you do not, the sun will soon set, and you with it.
    ~
    If you pursue the matter at hand along the straight path of reason, advancing with intensity, vigor, and grace, and without being distracted along the way; if you keep your divine spirit pure and blameless, as though this were the moment to give it back; if expecting nothing and fearing nothing, you are content to act in accord with nature and to speak with heroic honesty—then you will live well. And no power on earth can stop you.

    - Marcus Aurelius
    Thank-you, it's a great quote:relaxed:


     

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