Obviously a sensitive topic, don't read on if you don't like it.
Unfortunately people in our society can have terrible lives and mental states (and more) that can lead them to take their own lives. I'm young, so to more socially experienced people out there: How are you supposed to react as someone not completely involved?
People always say "it's disgusting when so many people who never cared about this person when they were alive, are all gushing about them now". Well, yeah, when someone dies (especially at their own hands), members of society around them have a right to be concerned. But perhaps not that deeply concerned?
What are we supposed/expected to say? What makes the family and friends of the individual feel better?
Do we not say anything? If we're an acquaintance or a friend, do we send cards and messages and whatever or just shut up? Do we attend the funeral and say "meaningless words"? Give hugs?
Of course, this all depends on how close we were to the individual. I'm talking about anything between classmate/coworker to friend-but-not-too-close-friend.
I understand why it would disgust people close to a suicidal individual how everybody floods in with emotion after a death and not before. But in which way are we supposed to act if a death like that does happen, then?
(If you've read The Fault in Our Stars, you know exactly what i'm referring to. But more for suicide, less for general death.)