Ive got a couple of text books on communication and I find it a fascinating subject.
Heres some of what one textbook says that really speaks to me:Any tips on communicating or Interpersonal skills you all can share here are very much appreciated.British Psychologist John Bowlby, for instance, suggests that adult concerns about trust may be related to unresponsive parenting in infancy.
One thing to guard against is overinterpreting negative behavior, which is most likely to happen when we are reminded of sensitive issues from the past.
In short, they saw what they expected to see. They became insensitive to their partners present actions and relied on the past to judge the interaction.
To combat this we can focus on concrete behavior rather than jumping to conclusions about our partners motives and character. We can also become more sensitive to and appreciative of positive behavior. In essence, we allow ourselves to trust by giving our partner some credit and providing him or her with the necessary room to make mistakes.