For those who don't know neuroticism is supposedly hereditary at least in large part, if you have neurotic parents you'll probably have a neurotic kid, if you've two very stable parents you'll likely have a very stable kid. I find the whole topic of hereditary personality traits really fascinating, and I thought it'd be cool to see how this pattern manifests with you guys, or even if your family contradicts it?
If you don't mind, describe for us whether you'd consider yourself neurotic, whether you'd say each of your parents are neurotic, and whether you'd consider each side of your family from both of them neurotic in general?
Just for clarity, neurotic meaning prone to negative emotions. Depression, anger, any kind of anxiety, etc.
I'd consider myself pretty neurotic. My mum isn't neurotic at all, my Y chromosome is about as neurotic as a person can possibly get. It gets a bit messy for me from here though, on both sides I have two half-siblings who each have their other parent different from me...
On my non-neurotic mum's side I have a much older brother and sister with a different dad, I don't know their dad very well but from vague memory I wouldn't say he's especially neurotic, all I really remember though is he has a very loud voice and isn't very nice. Not abusive, just not nice. My brother is quite neurotic though he's only started showing it recently, very socially anxious, easily angered though he tries to restrain it, and from what I've heard as a kid he was always pretty miserable. He drinks whenever he can to make himself more positive, he's a bit of an alcoholic because of it. My sister isn't neurotic at all, it's not especially hard to annoy her and she rants about things that annoy her pretty often but she she doesn't get worked up about it. Apparently as a kid she was always beaming, one time she fell down the stairs, got up and said "whoopsie!" and carried on with her day. My brother has a daughter who's sweet but can be quite stroppy and very very anxious with people even for her age in certain situations, my sister has the most carefree daughter in the world. My mum's parents died before I was born but from what I've heard they were positive and nice people, no reason to think there's any neuroticism there. With my aunties and uncles and cousins on that side, definitely not much neuroticism there at all, they're all pretty chilled out and gregarious.
On the neurotic other side I have two elder sisters with a different mum, their mum I wouldn't expect is neurotic, she seems quite upbeat. The eldest sister there I would say is very neurotic in a lot of ways very similar to me, she feels all kinds of anxiety easily and gets quite easily upset, she's had all kinds of eating disorders which she's thankfully over now, and I hate to ever speak badly of her but she can be a bit of a drama queen at times. With the other sister it's kind of hard to say, she does get angry pretty easily but I wouldn't say she gets depressed or anxious easily. The two of them row a lot because of the younger sister getting mad at the elder sister for her lifestyle choices. The elder sister has a son who's VERY neurotic, but he has iron deficiency and I think he might be autistic so it's hard to know how much is genetic. The younger sister has a daughter but she's still a baby, I don't think she cries any more than other babies in particular though. Those two sisters have a younger half-sister and brother with different dads, don't know the sister's dad, brother's dad I don't think is neurotic, seems to be in a good mood whenever I see him. Sister has the same temperament as the younger of my sisters on that side, brother's pretty chill. I don't know anyone from the rest of that side of the family but from what I've heard Y's dad was physically abusive to his mum and bullied him a lot when he was younger, which sounds like a red flag for neuroticism to me. Apparently his dad became a better person later though. Haven't a clue about his mum, only thing I've ever heard is my mum describing her as "weird" with an emphatic tone of voice she doesn't often use. He has siblings but I haven't heard much about them, all I know is they're apparently a lot nicer than him.