This is a discussion on Bad Friendships or Being Alone? within the General Psychology forums, part of the Topics of Interest category; Originally Posted by Naofumi You'll probably convert to christianity and become Terry A. Davis. I just googled Terry A. Davis ...
Making friends is never easy in my opinion haha, so I will say that you are your own better judge. To feel comfortable alone can be a plus, you can enjoy life in a different way. Maybe what you need is simply finding a balance between time spent with friends, and time spent with yourself ?
Otherwise, going into activities clubs of activities you enjoy can be a good way to both enjoy yourself and meet people with similar interests !
By the way out of curiosity, I checked friend etymology, did you know that it comes from the root of "love" and "free" ? Do you love and feel loved by your friends ? Do you feel free with them ?
See you !
Look in new places for better friends. I find a lot of laziness today in friendships. People expect for others to do all the work, or for authentic friendships to fall into their laps if they just hang out. It doesn't really work that way. It is not only a two way street, you have to make effort in friendships, or you end up alone or with crappy friends.
I like being alone, and being with awesome friends. I keep the number of friendships down so that I have time to tend to them. But you have to go out there and separate the chaff from the grain. If you have been getting mediocre results, look somewhere else. And remember, if you put in crappy effort, you will get crappy results. IMO
I was puzzling over this quandary myself not so long ago. I remember the day I was bemoaning not having a friend just like me, who was interested in all the same things.....and I realized, "Hey! Me! I have me!" It's true: we're interested in all the same things, and we can talk for hours. We even sleep together, so you might say we're friends with benefits.
seems like a false dichotomy, you know? i'd say to find better friends, meaningful friends. forever friend making is better than forever alone
It is always better to have that one or two good friends than a horde of low quality acquaintances but that goes against the grain of modern society that may as well have people herding cats.